I don't think I could have a relationship with someone in a wheelchair. Yes, terrible of me, etc, etc, and very politically incorrect, it's really the person inside who counts blah blah blah etc. But even so, there you have it.

Thank you Moose.

And RG, i appreciate what your saying, but having never had to deal with disability as such (my auntie has MS and is in a chair, and i am still rather uncomfortable around her, which i know is wrong but i cant help it) i still find it hard to cope with.

I find myself wondering whether i should help them with things and think i am being patronising.

Unfortunately for me, the thought just makes me feel uncomfortable.

See and thats the difference. I dont know do i? So it makes me feel strange.

If my life partner had an accident and suddenly needed a wheel chair, then i am not saying i would leave him (to roll off a cliff) ...(unless he was rich)... but it would be something we would both have to learn to live with together.

most disabled people i know are of the opinion "ask and if i do i will say yes"

in essence if you think they may need help, for instance a wheelchair user drops something, ask if they need you to pick it up if they say yes pick it up. if they say no leave it

Okay, i am going to end this part of the conversation. I think we obviously both have very different views. The fact for me is that i feel awkward and clumsy about people in wheel chairs.

thats just me.

i've spent my entire life that i can remember around disabled people so to be honest i rarely find people who have the same point of view as me.

my answer to this ...

i dont know


i am not disabled but i have a medical condition ... i have polycystic ovarian syndrome this gives me some pain on occasion but also affects my moods (i can be very happy very depressed ) because of the hormone inbalances, also it can affect fertility, i do want kids one day and its hard enough for me to face this fact and that it may not happen but i have had men go funny with me for this ... the other thing is that as many of you know i had a bad accident last year where i snapped my leg and ankle and dislocated some of the break, i had two ops for this i have quite a bit of metal holding me together and i get some pain, some days i cant do as much as i normally would as it hurts too much and i do have scars on my leg which i am very concious of, i think this puts some guys off as its unpredictable how much i can do day to day one day can be good one day can be bad ...
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