Okay. This ought to sort the men from the boys as it where.

If you met someone on a dating sight and they had a disability, how bad would the disability have to be for you to excuse yourself for the toilet and leg it out the emergency exit? That is if of course they hadnt been up front about it in the first place...

hmm.. the disability would have have to be some sorta mobility impairment..

cerebral palsy
MS(cant spell)
MD(cant spell)
paralysis
parkinsons disease
stroke
arthritis

i wouldnt necessarily run out the room, just knock back a few extra shots and try to make the date worthwhile with a decent convo..

a fine chic with visual impairment is another story though.. OMG im so freakin shallow

i have no problem with people with disabilities, but i've spent most of my life around disabled people.

I'm going to be a party pooper and say that I don't know what I would do.

In an ideal world I wouldn't care, but I'm a human being (no, really) with faults and I genuinely cannot say if I would react well or badly.

I guess I could argue in my defence that I might be more upset about being lied to then anything else, but I guess the level of upset would depend on how well I'd got on with the person before I saw them - in relation to the lie, not to the disability.

So I'm sitting on the fence for this one.

It's not very comfy cos its one of those spiked ones

Well, I would first of all ask them why they hadn't said how bad it is.

Then i'd carry on with the date. Everybody deserves a chance, it doesn't make them a different person!
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The only comment I will make is that an awful lot of people with "hidden" disabilities dont fess up until the relationship has been ticking along nicely for a while.
That's a whole different ballgame from putting on your running shoes as soon as you spy an unexpeccted wooden leg or a wheelchair on the first date.
Anyone see Deuce Bigalow? That was a classic moment!

That is also true, RG.
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Yeah, some good points, and Chooch, though sat on the spikey fence (i know your loving that) its good that you are honest!

I would rather people were honest up front... I dont usually care about stuff like that, but if the other person is not able bodied, i would most definately like to know. Blind or deaf, no worries, (Probably better for me cos they cant see or hear me...bwahaha) but if it was something serious which meant they were wheelchair bound, then i dont know what i would do.

Its a toughie this one!

Well, yes, it WOULD be better if people were honest and up front.

But I'm sure somebody would have their reasons. Like scaring the person off. Mind you, some people would run 5 miles at the sight of a wheelchair, without even giving it a second thought.


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I am not saying i would runa mile at the sight of a wheelchair, i guess I would just rather be in the picture as it were so that it wasnt a shock to me when i arrived.

Ye Laura, it did.

I know what you mean, and that wouldnt be a problem (i dont think...having never been in that situation)...because if i was a little shocked, my brain would eventually kick into gear and let me know that they must be having a bad day, henceforth required their wheelchair.

I once went on a date with a guy who told me he had some disease or other to do with kidneys. He had to wear an intravenous thing straight to his heart all the time. I wasnt bothered by it, but he made such a big deal about it, making me look at it when i didnt want to, that i ended up getting really fucked off with him and telling him i didnt want to see him any more.

i get why people would want to know but i also get why people who are disabled don't always tell people. i get pissed off with the way people change as soon as they know i'm dyspraxic and that's not even a big "oh my god" thing. My mum gets fucking pissed off so many times a day.

Yes..it would be a shock, I have to admit, but as a stated before - it really wouldn't actually bother me.

Now I can imagine that being annoying aswell, Heidi.
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