Ok, so back in nov / dec time i posted a thread about compliments, trying to find out which were good / bad / indifferent but now i have a secondary question based on the same thing...

Does it make a difference WHO gives the compliment ?

I'm not fussy, if someone says i look good or they like something about me, i usually say thanks, grin stupidly and carry on with whatever i was doing - admitedly i very rarely receive them, so maybe that's why i react differently to someone who gets them more often ?

So, i put it to you.. Does it matter WHO gives a compliment ? or does it depend on the compliment & who gives it ?

I'm gonna shut up now
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Yes I think it does matter. But I think the better you know and like a person who is giving you compliments, the more it will actually mean to you. The better you know and like somebody the more likely you are to feel they are being open and honest with you. But when someone you don't know gives you compliments it can either give you a boost or make you think "hello, what the f*ck are they after?". But at the same time, it depends upon the compliment type i.e a compliment about appearance or about a personal trait or talent. The context is important. Giving compliments about appearance to people you do not know well is simply an expression of visual pleasure and could be easily taken to mean you fancy them

yeh i think it matters because a friend or family member will compliment you even if you look like shit to make you feel better or to save an argument wheras strangers are more honest which is why i think compliments from strangers are more honest and flattering even if it is just builder giving a wolf whistle you cant deny that it gives you a little boost as you walk past

How to wolf whistle (!): http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_4Z7rODCPpQ

I'm like yourself i'm very flattered when recieving compliments as i'm a big girl and lack a lot of self confidence so any compliment has me grinning like a cheshire cat

Personally as to who gives the compliment it dosent really matter they still mean the same thing so i get flattered no matter who dishes them out. However i believe that you can be more flattered if you think the person giving the compliment is ,so to speak. 'hot' ! Thats just a personal opinion though

I struggle to accept compliments, always have.

For me its the non obvious compliments that mean more to me, things that not everybody can see, things I dont show people, things that only people close to me can see, so I guess yes it does matter who says it, it means more when its from someone you care about, well for me it does cos they know me, they know my flaws but also can see my inner self.

A random man can tell me im fit but it would men they just wanna f*** me, im not stupid, ive been going to clubs for half my life so im aware of this BUT the man I love can tell me im beautiful, out of the blue, all cos I laughed or did a funny pose or a stupid dance or just sitting there looking into space, that means more to me. He can tell me he loves my little chin, loves how my eyes get all droopy when im tired and loves when my hair gets all fluffy for from the damp air or rain. Their the things I love cos their the things im concious of but only a person that loves you can appreciate them and see they make me be ME, a random guy couldnt see it.

Also I think compliments mean more when they are out of the blue and not daily, I dont want to hear it everyday, wanna hear it when i least expect it

I'm tired and I'm sore is always a good compliment...

I like giving people compliments as it can make a big difference to how they feel and I like people to feel good around me and it shows interest in them.
I also like receiving compliments too, though I do sometimes blush and it's true if you like somebody special or they're somebody who's not known for complimenting very often, it makes you feel even better.
Any kind of compliment can be nice and I do like them from strangers because they've put themselves out to notice and want to say something to me. I wear a perfume that complete strangers often comment on from young to old ( and no it's not 'cos it's strong, it's subtle). I have a blue coat that people like a lot and a bright red blouse, so compliments can often give an insight on how others see me.
I find family compliments are honest 'cos they know I will want to know the truth.
I think compliments should always be genuine and I can usually tell when they're not, or if there's another motive.... I can still accept the compliment graciously without letting on that I've sussed the motive!
........then there's that person that always likes to 'put you down' you know the sort, after you've got yourself all dressed up for an occasion and feel psyched up to look good with an expectation of compliments, then you're told " What's the matter with you today you look a bit pastey? You look like you've had a rough night, may be you should have worn something with a bit more colour"
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I think compliments have more to do with honesty than with anything else. I personally don't associate this with the status of the person (whether a friend or just someone I barely know), but at the end of the day, damn you never know if they're honest.

I always look forward to receiving compliments en masse via here every single thursday, from people desperate to fill a weekend with literally anyone...!