Today i read on the front page of a young man (25 years old) who jumped to his death from a bridge over a railway line!

Why you may ask?

He recently split from a long term partner and they had a little girl, the facts of life being that they were miles apart and his living costs and maintenance for the little girl were so high that he couldn't afford regular trips to see his daughter!

A sad fact of life? i don't think so! It appears to me (and i admit to being biased) that in cases where the authorities can pin a father down and extract the maximum amount of cash from them that little consideration is given to the father! Did you know that if a father is off work sick or out of work for any length of time that maintenance arrears accrue and interest is payable on that amount? or that if overpayments are made that the likelyhood of recovering the amount is remote? So not only does the father lose his home but faces the prospect of years of torment and stress from continueing demands on his finances and this even stretchs to any new family he may have!

In all sensibilities is the law sensible towards fathers in this day and age? How many single people can afford to provide themselves with decent accommodation! or even a reasonable standard of living? Even without the burden of paying the high cost for a failed relationship!

Please don't get me wrong i firmly believe that the absent parent should contribute to his childrens upbringing but a more equitable and fairer system needs to be in place!

OK girls i've got a target on my chest do i get a chance for the last fag and a blindfold?


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How sad Dave..... relationships and there splits have so much to answer for.. This is so tragic...
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Why would we blast you David?! I was married to one of those guys whose every penny went to maintain a child he was prevented from ever seeing and we had a home and 4 children to look after. No thought given to his new family at all.

It's a tragic loss of a very young man.

Its a very sad story and makes me even more bitter towards my tosser ex husband who doesn't pay a penny in maintenance for our daughter because he is in Ireland where the CSA have no control

The CSA can be equally guilty of hounding the absent perant especially those who were easy to pin down!

A few years ago they hounded one of their own employees into suicide! he hung himself over an assesment that left him with a mere £5 a week to live on? At least their 1st attempt on me left me with £50 a month! I £pay over £400 a month and have done for over 12 years!

The system desperately needs an overhaul to stop these wild variances and a system that allows both partners the equal chance to start again and any children not only the love but financial support they need from an absent perant!
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that sure is a sad story!! i feel bitter towards my sons dad even more now as he has never in my sons life ever gave my son a chritsmas prezzie or bday prezzie let alone help me with his up bring!! and his dad wonders why my lil boy calls him by his 1st name!!

Hey Baby! My exe and her family encouraged my three to call me by my 1st name! My brother and father used to give my exe a cheque for £100 for each of them for christmas and birthdays! she used to tell them that they had been given £5 and spend the rest on herself! I myself i'm sad to say stopped giving when they stopped sending a note of thanks to me and i discovered my cheques were passing through her account!
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This guy is liscensed to chill, and thrill, but the opportunities to thrill are rather less than anticipated!!!!

True you get one side of a story as it's unlikely you will hear hers! I think the moral is why kill the goose that laid the golden egg! I personally think that the phrase absent parent is a better term than absent dad because it cuts both ways!

BUT!! you know they say we always go for a stereotype partner rather than step into the unknown! I have been single now for almost 8 years (a few short flings though) and still searching for the elusive Ms right lol! if such a person exists they are certain to be on the verge of extinction!


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This guy is liscensed to chill, and thrill, but the opportunities to thrill are rather less than anticipated!!!!

Mate i think perhaps the term searching is wrongly used!

I know what you mean about the kids though i miss mine rather badly and since i have apparently gained not only a daughter in law but a grand sprog that i'm quite certain i will never meet I certainly don't envisage bringing anymore offspring into this world! even to satisfy my own urges to settle with a family!

As for waiting i agree I have met someone i rather like a lot on FB and i think it is a case of wait and see!
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This guy is liscensed to chill, and thrill, but the opportunities to thrill are rather less than anticipated!!!!