I havnt read all the posts on this thread but I really do think that whoever you contact they will be able to give the best advice, phone childline or someone like that and they can tell you the best way forward.

I definitely think you should contact someone so you hear it from an expert.

Good luck x

Has anyone considered the option that this woman may not be as crazy or socially dysfunctional as people are misconstruing her to be?

Just because society dictates that these actions are not normal or insane even, doesnt make it a fact.

She has chosen an alternative lifestyle and has a different belief system to other peoples. Does that make hers worth any less than an opposing way of life?

Contrary to popular belief, BDSM isnt about insanity, self hate, stupidy or mindless violence - its another way of looking at life, and at times a deeply admirable one.

So she likes to be spanked and have her limits pushed. That to me shows strength in character.

She likes to have a dominant man in her life, she is clear about what her role is and what his role is in her life. That is admirable, she is clearly cutting against the grain and showing her individuality, which I think is important in this day and age of political correctness, nanny state and the current problems that feminism is facing by painting themselves into a corner.

I can see no reason why the children would be adversely affected by this lifestyle. Just because someone likes to be spanked, doesnt make them a paedophile or an unfit parent. It makes them someone who is intelligent enough to choose an alternative lifestyle and all that it entails.

I read this thread and it deeply worried me regarding the children of the people who replied to this thread. Are you really so shallow minded that you would be so quick to judge someone with a different set of views to yourself? That isnt enlightenment, its a limited viewpoint that blocks out anything that may not fall into its neat little categories and safe pigeon holes

It seems that the woman is finally happy, shes found someone who makes her more fulfilled, doesnt limit her with whats sometimes termed as 'vanilla constraints' - shes finally happy and im sure thats a much better environment for the children than the limited loveless and deeply unhappy situation she must have been in before, and all that it entailed.

Good luck to her, and especially good luck to all who responded to this thread in such a limited blinkered way, because you will certainly need it.

That is all

Well Cybernob, ...You sound like your either someone’s gimp or get a kick out of abusing and humiliating women yourself.

I lived with this woman for four years and I know her better than she knows herself, ..she’s been mentally ill for 20 years and the only reason she is with him now is because she thinks she doesn’t deserve to be treated any better. As for her being happier than she’s ever been, how the marry do you come to that conclusion? The BDSM for her is not a sexual high or an alternative lifestyle as you put it, …it’s about making the little voice in her head that tells her she’s ugly and worthless go away and doing whatever she can to please someone and feel wanted by them, ..something she has had a hard time feeling since her childhood. Until I changed my phone number she was sending me pictures of her cuts, bruises and burns which I can only assume was my punishment for leaving her. Does this sound like someone who’s happy to you? It’s not the first time she has chosen an abusive boyfriend although this one is by far the worst. When I met her, her self esteem was at rock bottom and over the years I was with her I managed to help rebuild some of that, ..her medication was halved and she no longer needed to see a shrink. Since meeting him that’s all gone, ..I saw her the other day and I hardly recognise her now, ..she’s just a shell of who she used to be and I expect her to be back in the hospital within a few months.
Actually, she was very loved , although I’m not about to list my reasons for leaving her for your benefit! And if you think burning a woman with a soldering iron enriches the children’s lives your just a much a fucking sicko as he is, …which you were obviously aware of since you read the thread didn’t you.