OK us ancient crinkly old gits who obviously have no attraction to the opposite love are languishing in limbo land!

If we message younger women we become maligned as dirty old men and worse! If we message Ladies within a reasonable age span we get told that they only date younger guys! So are we really in a no win situation!?

Questions, seriously what does constitute:
a) A sensible age difference! (for me maybe 10years or so)
b)Is there a right time to hoist the white flagand say ok girls i surrender, your loss because you possibly don't know what you are missing.

My neighbour is 56 his partner is 25! They are happy, they met on line, so is it worth all the hassle and should guys over a certain age give in and become grumpy old farts gracefully?

suggestions FB could do with some additional filters within the search profiles! Cos girls believe it or not you age as well and somephotos i have viewed look years older than the actual given age!
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This guy is liscensed to chill, and thrill, but the opportunities to thrill are rather less than anticipated!!!!

Personally I would never give up, been here 3 years & had a few let downs but I kept plodding on...so it's all worth it in the end..

Also if you click the search link here:

http://www.flirtbox.co.uk/search.php?op=search

You can do an age search in whatever area you want, see examples below:



Your search results will then show.

I have used that one LV, It is a rather limited area search! What if i wanted to do a country wide search for a given age group say whilst i am browsing the gallery?
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This guy is liscensed to chill, and thrill, but the opportunities to thrill are rather less than anticipated!!!!

I don't think giving up is what you want to do really, but may be putting less importance on the 'search for a partner'.
The way I look at it is this, natural law is about 'balance' so if you put too much emphasis on one thing it's not going to work.
If you give some thought as to what it is you are really looking for and hold it clear in your mind, you will be free 'not to be thinking of it all the time' then you can be getting on with life knowing that the 'universe' KNOWS and the laws of attraction will be in motion.
Whilst your mindset is thinking negatively about not being what the women/men want in a partner, romance is less likely to be 'on the cards' but if you turn it around, and take the perspective that you're a great person for someone to have in their life, because you're sensitive, trustworthy, reliable, loving, compassionate, gentle, interesting, great cook........and so on anyone reading it will be more open to an approach for friendship/love.... or whatever.

I do agree with you Sue (may i call you Sue?) I do rattle up a very tasty boiled egg No seriously i'm quite a competent cook! and if i blew my own trumpet more often i could list most of your points in my profile, I have been single for almost 12 years now! So i would hardly say that i have dwelt too heavily on the finding a partner bit, there does come a point where crustiness does overtake the light humour and you have to say enough is enough!

I think some of the problems arise from the misuse of Internet dating by the few rotten apples who send what i call off colour messages, I still retain a high degree of olde worldy manners, politeness and common curtesy! Experience has slowly taught me that these are unwanted attributes!

Another problem is the fact that being a free site it does to a degree attract all the bad apples so to speak! Which in turn leeds to more males than females joining the site! On one day out of 150 new members there were 4 females! All of them were under 25!
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This guy is liscensed to chill, and thrill, but the opportunities to thrill are rather less than anticipated!!!!

Also eccles, I just went on your profile and see that you are a member of a group called "no strings fun" which might suggest to some visitors that you are just on the make, so to speak. Also, saying that you are here for "anything" sounds a bit apocalyptic lol, I am just joking, but that is a bit undefined isn't it? I was unable to view your other other photos as the photo tab is not working, but I know that main pic you have has been up for about 4 years so maybe update that? Anyone viewing the forum can see you are a nice chap so you need to make sure your profile reflects this also.

I don't think you should give up. Myspace is good for making new friends on the net, they have groups on there for different kinds of interests and people, join some of those and get talking to people in a non dating setting, thats what i did and I met my partner there, whom I have very recently got back with

I would update my profile to reflect this but no fucker messages anyway so i wont waste my time on it

Oh yeah, age is a number and I agree with Jeggae that on the net age takes on more significants as people usually start off looking for a criteria. Although Jegs may not have used those words, he has mentioned the age and difference between net and real life before a few times. You just need to chance upon the right person who is not here to meet a criteria but here to get to know interesting funny people, that is how we fall in love, not with criteria.

Thanks Scotty! I agree the photo is old! At present i don't have any others! I'm not what you call photogenic PMSL! Plus i use an SLR camera! Bit weighty! andan acident has left me with 2 knackered fingers nad a weekened arm! Plus the ones i took using my mobile tended to decapitate me or i looked more like a gargoyle than i usually do I have tinkered with the text on my profile too! But as you say no one messages regardless!

That group thing believe it or not absolutely nothing happens with those things any way and as for NSF i should be so lucky! The forum is my main interest too but even that could do with an injection of new blood these days

I might give myspace a shot, but let's say a rather bad surprise/shock on facebook has left me a tad apprehensive about joining another one!
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This guy is liscensed to chill, and thrill, but the opportunities to thrill are rather less than anticipated!!!!

I agree that the special interest groups on sites or sites set up specifically for an interest. These are a good way to get to know people, even though I do find myself in friendships across the globe via that route, but sooner or later something will happen.
It's ok to call me Sue btw
I think my 'something will happen' can alter to 'something has happened' since yesterday..... and in a roundabout way, I have Hansel to thank for that too!

Still haven't found a way ofremoving them! Serves me right for being too tongue in cheek lol
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This guy is liscensed to chill, and thrill, but the opportunities to thrill are rather less than anticipated!!!!

Haha! I dunno hansel, 'too' is just a habit....like when I use, just, oh well etc... I've got loads of them.....

So you know what it's all about.....I got this friendship request on spaces that's linked to my msn IM and usually I don't accept strangers, but this guy had your name hansel and as I don't think of forum people as strangers I accepted the request.... well, he turns out to be my kinda person and me, his, and I'm so excited now I'm even going off my food

As regards the original post by eccles…

I don't like the term 'old git', it's not a way I'd describe myself (except maybe jokingly) and I don't think of myself as 'ancient' or 'crinkly' - although I'm most likely older than eccles. It’s too negative, too disparaging, for me.

a) A sensible age difference?
It’s a decision for the individuals: I also see people with very young partners. For me, the maximum would be 20 years, but the people I’ve met so far have been within 6 years of my age and like you I’d imagine finding someone within 10 years of my age.

b) Is there a right time to hoist the white flag?
I don't believe in giving up. No Surrender!
I don't see myself languishing in limbo land – or bimbo land, for that matter! I just don't languish!

I still see us older men having a place in the life of some older, unattached women. They may have their family; they may have a circle of friends; they may have a range of interests and hobbies, they may have their own house and car...
Oh, OK, you're right... Why the hell would these women need some ancient, crinkly, wrinkly, crispy, whispy old git in their life?

Well, why do you want a woman in yours?
(No, it's not all love! Although we'd all like to imagine it was! )
It’s because we’re hard wired for it. We can manage being alone, but can’t survive being lonely. We need someone to fill the ‘empty’ hours; to make us feel loved and wanted; to share the things that our families and friends can’t or won’t share; to talk about anything we can’t discuss with family and friends; to generally enrich our existence.
I can see you bringing those to some woman’s life. Couldn’t you?
Hang in there. Keep the faith!

Anyway, there’s no such thing as a graceful, grumpy old fart!
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Give me golf clubs, fresh air and a beautiful partner, and you can keep the clubs and the fresh air.
(Jack Benny)

I seem to remember Mr Darkhorse saying something along the lines of 'give it a rest every so often'. With that I completely agree. If you keep hunting every night for weeks on end you'll keep finding the same profiles and the same disappointments over and over. It helps to have a few weeks break, then come back and notice there are some new faces around. Then surprise the newbies with a non-pervy message!

The exception of course is the forums where the same tired, ancient, wrinkly, creaky old farts keep fumbling along....