Hi people, just want to invite some thoughts on this..when should one consider his marriage over..and should absolutely stop working towards it..I know it depends on a variety of factors and is different for everyone, but when would YOU consider it finally over..this means a lot, so please advise

Im not sure about the resenting each other, there are times when you like each other but just cant live with each other

Officially? It's over when the divorce papers are signed.

I'd stop working on a marriage then.

Marriage or any relationship is over as soon as one or both of the people involved gives up on trying to make it work...

You know your marriage is over when the want to be around them turns into cant stand to be near them.When the little things he use to do to make you feel special just turn you off.And when you go to bed at night and roll over to go to sleep no goodnight or anything.And just being around them makes you ill at ease.Its time to close the book put pen to paper and say its over

In my opinion its when the trust is gone, i think any relationship can make a comeback if you both try , but once you dont trust the other person id say its time to walk away.
As the old saying goes "trust is the hardest thing to earn, but the easiest thing to lose"

well when you start to have doubts and you are thinking is this over... then you either need to take steps to either make it work or end it..

but at the end of the day only you deep down in your heart know if its worth pursuing or not..

best of luck