I must have sent over 50 messages over the past week, yet not one person has replied. I fail to believe that their inbox is that busy.

over 50?
Blimey, you're not choosey then!
If it was a case of quickly bash out one generic "hi how's u?" message that you then copied and pasted 49 times more to all and sundry....that might have some bearing on your lack of replies.
Maybe try to just pick out one or two lovelies who really do truly honestly catch your eye, sit down with a cuppa and write them each a personal, well thought out message telling them why you chose them above all others to contact....ok dont waste forever writing a whole book because that could scare them off too and will be a waste of your time if they dont reply....but crikey dont sound so desperate or worse, indiscriminate, I mean more than 50 is well ummmmm......yeah.

You haven't messaged me that's why lol

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i know whats with the wimen on here lazy cows are they realy that shallow if they dont like you that they wont talk to you pfff? ach well theyre loss ha at least its free and kills time ha

Nor me.
I think he's only up to the letter B.
Going through the whole of the flirtbox membership A-Z.
A bit like playing darts blindfold with 99,999 darts....bound to hit the bullseye eventually.

But I agree with Rocketgirl! you've got to make a girl feel special, not like a statistic lol

This is a very well documented gripe. Here are some possible reasons:
people don't log on for weeks;
people create a profile then don't use it again;
people just don't like the look of you;
people get fed up with recieving loads of no brainer PMs and stop reading them;
people don't understand well thought out, clever PMs;
people just forget to check their mail;
people secretly form large groups that set out to ignore certain people's mail

feel free to add more

okay i exaggerated a tiny amount with 50 ni that short amount of time, but most of them were thought out, commenting on bits of their profile that i liked as well, i recently started looking at their last log in date and that might be a huge part

Yeh think the other girls are right - I mean on here we women get sooo soo soo many messages and it just wouldn't be possible to reply to them all and a fair few of them I think 'did you not read my profile?' as they totally unsuitable for me.... so for you I think its a question of narrowing down to a few who really have similar interests to you and sending them messages specific to them - for the guys I sometimes think it so hard as that first message so important as you got to come across as funny, intelligent, attractive, interesting and sane lol - a tall order I know and thats just in one little message - and I guess there is an element of luck too as you never know she could be havin a bad day, be in a stroppy mood lol you just never know all these things which could affect whether or not you get a response - but keep trying and don't turn into a whinger about the fact you don't get messages as that defo not attractive

yeah Bliss that happens to me too sometimes, but I think sometimes it's 'cos a guy is new to the site and makes a special effort, then when they see more lovely ladies....... I fall in to the background.

I have the same problem myself, I havent had a single reply to a message I've sent, apart from forum poster's which is different, they were conversational thing's. I hardly bother sending them at the moment, I'm just trying to work out what I'm doing wrong, as I do comment on info on the lady's profile, try to make them fun, and interesting, but not too long. The only time's I've been on date's with girl's from dating site's is when they have messaged me first. I dont know.

Btw, loveleelady, that was a really interesting post, quite helpful.

Does anyone else think it's strange that in this day and age when the sexes are supposed to be equal that men are still expected to make the first move? Dont get me wrong, I know some women message (or approach, in the "real world") first, but generally it's the guy's.

I aint really had this problem...only because ive sent messages to two different people
Both of whom were active on the forums.

And to be honest with you, i know its a "dating" site...but im really only using this because i struggle to sleep, and need something to stop me going insane lol

Dont get me wrong, id love to meet a few people off here
Primarily being Ed and Laura, they both seem proper good laughs

Lol
Yes, god i find it hard to make first contact with women i dont even know
Sometimes i wish i was Mel Gibson

Hah I know how you feel dude. In real life its easy to just make yourself noticed and throw in a few lines. Online it's far more complicated and difficult to get noticed. You goto make some amazing looking profile. Send em a very personal and detailed message. Then finally you get your reply. Its just how it is I suppose. I'm just really interested in talking to girls or other. Just fo the Social gathering.