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03.06.2006, 14:40 quote

wyche85
wyche85 Joined: 24 May 2006 Posts: 53 Location: United Kingdom, England, London
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Hi, I was wondering what kind of a message shall I send someone on this site...
becasue most of my messages get igonred and it upsets me...
I explain that they have nice pics and where i am from ans stuff
but they just brush it aside, is it my looks or something?

 

03.06.2006, 16:16 quote

ligthmeup
Joined: 22 May 2006 Posts: 36 Location: United Kingdom, ,
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Don't send a poem. That's a "shoot on sight" offence.

 

03.06.2006, 16:23 quote

Anonymous

wyche85 wrote:
Hi, I was wondering what kind of a message shall I send someone on this site...
becasue most of my messages get igonred and it upsets me...
I explain that they have nice pics and where i am from ans stuff
but they just brush it aside, is it my looks or something?


Just say hi Smile don't say anything you think might put people off - if they want to chat, they'll reply Smile

 

03.06.2006, 20:08 quote

wyche85
wyche85 Joined: 24 May 2006 Posts: 53 Location: United Kingdom, England, London
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this is what i sent someone

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Hi, i'm james wyche, i'm 20 years old, i'm 6"3, from north london...
I work in camden market, I enjoy going out places, partying and meeting new people
I like your pics you look really nice,
what do you think of mine, do you have msn...
James xx
==========

is there anything wrong with it?

 

04.06.2006, 11:46 quote

Anonymous

wyche85 wrote:
this is what i sent someone

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Hi, i'm james wyche, i'm 20 years old, i'm 6"3, from north london...
I work in camden market, I enjoy going out places, partying and meeting new people
I like your pics you look really nice,
what do you think of mine, do you have msn...
James xx
==========

is there anything wrong with it?


hi there...first msgs are difficult i agree. And i'll be the first to admit that this i find difficult too. but i would look at it this way...would you approach someone in a club/bar or street in a similar vain? or would you first just say hi and wait for a response?
what i mean is..you start by telling the person what they will read in your profile. why? curiousity will lead them to look at your profile anyway..lol The compliment you made was nice, but then you immediately ask their opinion of yours. could give the impression that you only gave one to recieve one. not saying intentional at all, but it could..
I suppose my advice really, for what its worth lol, is just imagine yourself introducing yourself as if that person is right in frount of you..that way i believe you will come across more as yourself..
or..imagine that you have just approached this person standing at a bar..now imagine saying excately what you sent in msg........
you have provided name, height, age, occupation and your likes..then you say 'you look nice..how about me? have you a telephone number?..you draw breath..
only now can she actually say 'hi'..lol

 

05.06.2006, 17:50 quote

Nicaragua
Nicaragua Joined: 20 Feb 2005 Posts: 125 Location: United Kingdom, England, Greater Manchester
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wyche85 wrote:
this is what i sent someone

=========
Hi, i'm james wyche, i'm 20 years old, i'm 6"3, from north london...
I work in camden market, I enjoy going out places, partying and meeting new people
I like your pics you look really nice,
what do you think of mine, do you have msn...
James xx
==========

is there anything wrong with it?



A few pointers

Dont write info what they can already get from looking at your profile.
Dont ask them to comment on something about you (your pics), it looks desperate.
Saying something is "nice" is a bit of a crap compliment - try something more individual to the person you are contacting.
Dont ask if they have MSN on a first contact - it also looks a bit desperate.
Try and establish something that you can talk about or discuss in future mails - give her a reason to reply.

 

05.06.2006, 19:10 quote

Anonymous

Try picking something out of their profile and basing a message round that - It proves you read their profile.
Also, don't ask for a msn address in the first message, as somebody else says, it makes you seem desperate.

Don't put too much information about yourself, let them read your profile or ask questions.

 

05.06.2006, 19:21 quote

Nicaragua
Nicaragua Joined: 20 Feb 2005 Posts: 125 Location: United Kingdom, England, Greater Manchester
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wyche85 wrote:
is it my looks or something?


Yeah, you look gay.

 

05.06.2006, 19:40 quote

Anonymous

Nicaragua wrote:
wyche85 wrote:
is it my looks or something?


Yeah, you look gay.


That isn't very nice! Rolling Eyes

 

05.06.2006, 19:56 quote

Anonymous

Nicaragua wrote:
wyche85 wrote:
is it my looks or something?


Yeah, you look gay.
i agree.. you do look gay

 

05.06.2006, 19:57 quote

Nicaragua
Nicaragua Joined: 20 Feb 2005 Posts: 125 Location: United Kingdom, England, Greater Manchester
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flowerangelaura wrote:
Nicaragua wrote:
wyche85 wrote:
is it my looks or something?


Yeah, you look gay.


That isn't very nice! Rolling Eyes


Its merely a statement, do you disagree with it ?

 

05.06.2006, 19:58 quote

Anonymous

Nicaragua wrote:


Its merely a statement, do you disagree with it ?


Well, did you see me agree or disagree?!...i'll let you make your own mind up

 

05.06.2006, 19:59 quote

Nicaragua
Nicaragua Joined: 20 Feb 2005 Posts: 125 Location: United Kingdom, England, Greater Manchester
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flowerangelaura wrote:
Nicaragua wrote:


Its merely a statement, do you disagree with it ?


Well, did you see me agree or disagree?!...i'll let you make your own mind up


No i didnt, so do you disagree with it ?

 

05.06.2006, 19:59 quote

Anonymous

makeusmile wrote:
i agree.. you do look gay


You should know better Laughing

 

05.06.2006, 20:00 quote

Anonymous

Nicaragua wrote:
flowerangelaura wrote:
Nicaragua wrote:


Its merely a statement, do you disagree with it ?


Well, did you see me agree or disagree?!...i'll let you make your own mind up


No i didnt, so do you disagree with it ?


Ok, i'll be honest. He looks slightly gay.

 
 
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