I just came out of having an argument with my ex it was over me coming to collect the rest of my things.

It ended peacefully after many harsh things were said and I told her that after I have got my things it was best if we quitely left each others lives for good.

She started seing someone towards the end of our realtionship and even though we probably weren't suited after all I can't deal with the thoughts of how much better he is than me.

Perosnaly I feel it will cause to much pain,trouble and heart break to remain friends.

Do you think I have done the right thing?

Done the right thing meaning deciding not to be friends?

I'd say yes judging by the fact that you said it would hurt etc.

Yep in realation to that question and thanks for your point of view.

hey James, you know my feelings on this and I totally sympathise with you, but I guess when you take a step back and look at the whole situation, and calm down you start to understand that it's just one of those things that life blows your way and you just have to grit teeth and keep on pushing forward. That's what gives a person strength!

Oh I agree Wolfwoman and this time around I have vowed not to dwell I have licked my wounds but I think it's just a matter of getting the final stages done (should going to collect things in the next two days).

On the bright side..hey look the suns out and I have all my hair

Well y'know

Hello James
I am in the same boat as you just out of a 22 year relationship went back to get some of my things that did not get on to the removel van and all i got when i was inside was verbal abuse i went right back out and left my things.this will be the second and last time i can not stand her saying sorry and it well be diffrent.As we type i have a text she says sorry. Think i well give it a miss.
I don`t know if this helps but it dose get better, all be it a bit at a time
Peter.

James it does get better in time,I used to think I wanted to go back with my ex cos I remembered the good times....but I used to forget the bad times & the reason for breaking up in the first place...I am a much stronger person now but still get my sad days when I wish for more..........whatever that will be, who knows?


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Your decision is your own mate, stick to what you think is right. Asking for an opinion here is fine.

Ultimately you know what needs to be done.

I cannot stress it enough that the heart is devoid of logic. It's obvious that a part of you yearns for her.

Realise. Some people are just built not to care. Not their fault either, the world shapes them in this way.
You're wise to see what's happening, however it's hard to actually do something about it.

That takes time.

I'm confident that you'll pull through.

You have done the right thing, you would not stay friends with a friend that treated you badly so why just because someone once shared our beds we must keep them around.

Nobody can tell you what's right or wrong here, because nobody else was in the relationship. Only you know if you could have a friendship worth salvaging, and the very fact that you're asking shows you're unsure whether to throw it all away.

The only advice I'll give is that it doesn't have to be either/or; take some time apart, get to know new people, new girls, have a few girlfriends maybe, or find one special person-or you on your own is enough. Once again with everybody is different; everybody likes different techniques in bed, and therefore there's no way you can be better or worse except in her opinion-and seeing as you care little enough about her opinion to end things, who cares? After a while, you won't. And maybe then you'll know that you could be friends.