hi people,im new to this sort of thing and just need some advice.i joined this site last week and said see what happens.i got talking to this nice woman in england on monday.we really hit it off and seem to click.but than last night she wanted me to travel to where she lives and meet.i said to her i think it is a bit soon we dont know much about another and should get to know each other better.was i right in what i said and am i right in saying it is a bit soon to meet.really like to get peoples view on here in what they think?

i think the question is do you think it's to soon or not? do what makes you happy x

oh and im looking ha!

You ought to just do what you feel comfortable with BUT if you would like to meet too, but feel that it's too early to be splashing out to come to England until you're more sure, then you could invite her to come to you.
It might be a different thing if she's going to be the one paying out fares etc. and using up prescious holidays from work for a meeting that might not be as exciting as you both hoped.
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All depends on the definition of 'soon'. Are we talking 'soon' as in - kids in the back of the car saying 'are we there yet' soon, or... are we talking 'your flight has been delayed by bad weather, but will be arriving shortly' soon, or... Suzy's got her foot on Johnny's head at the bottom of the 6' end of the swimming pool and will be letting him up for air 'soon', or... 'soon' after the dinosaurs died off - after the asteroid hit the planet - mammals arose and 'soon' dominated the surface?!!!! It's all relative. As a rule of thumb, if it feels right, DON'T do it... wait... until it feels right at least 3 times THEN do it. And if the 3 times all occur within the space of 45 seconds, then its big decision time or, just flip a coin - and blame Satan if it goes wrong again... and, again and... even yet again... then... learn from it. It's a bit like sniffing sulphuric acid fumes in school chemistry class - after the third time of losing your sense of smell for a month, you just don't do it again!!!!!!!!!

I think the topic itself answered the question for you really to be honest.

You asked if it was too soon, but you had already told her you wanted to get to know her more before meeting, that just proves that it WAS too soon, for you.

Everyone has their own pace and way of doing things, if 'she' was unwilling to wait then you did the right thing !! I don't think I'd like to be in a relationship with someone who can't consider someone elses views!
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What puzzles me is, why after a few days of speaking to you, does she want you to fly over and meet her? I can understand if you lived locally, but when it involves costs and planning, why the impetus? Personally, I'd say you're right to want to wait a bit, simply because of the facts I stated. And, if things are moving that quickly, I would also consider whether such a long distance relationship could actually work for you? Look at the pros and cons properly of such a relationship.

But, and this is above all, simply do what makes you happy and makes you feel comfortable.

As a trustworthy rule of thumb: if she wants to put her hands down the front of your pants, and you want to put your hands down the top of her blouse and up her skirt - and you both feel the same at the same time, then it's not too soon... unless you're in a genito-urinary clinic and she's just your doctor of course...

blah79, it will always be "too soon" untill and unless you feel you trust that person as you trust yourself.

Have a nice dating
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thats for you to decide and only you my freind . but good luck either way .