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Home >> Advice >> She really loves me but....
26.08.2006, 18:48 quote
Right, I've been going out with this lass on and off for about 2 years now. We met at uni and had a great first 6 months then it all went a little sour. We broke up and got back together so many times I've lost count (for a number of reasons, mainly due to trust issues and the fact we're complete opposites - me being quiet and reserved politics student, and her being a crazy extrovert drama student)
Anyway....we recently got back together after finishing uni, and have been attempting a long distance relationship (she's in Dorset, I'm in Surrey). She’s always been really emotional and high maintenance but really loves me and keeps calling me telling me so, constantly questioning whether I want to spend my life with her....which to be honest I don't anymore since I feel we've drifted apart to much these past few years....
I really wanted to call it off permanently but I know it’ll really hurt her…
Trouble is, last week she got sectioned by her parents under the mental heath act for at least 28 days (she's not nutts or anything but I’ve always suspected she's bipolar and now I've been proved right – she needs me more than ever now but I don’t want to tell her what she wants to hear…
What is one to do?!!?
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26.08.2006, 18:52 quote
Deal with it how you feel is right. Nobody's situation is the same as yours. I know it's not useful, but this isn't a regular occurance...
28.08.2006, 14:34 quote
Gosh what a sensitive situation..
I think tough love is required here...
It won't help your girl to give her falso hope..
She clearly has mental health problems and feeding what she may want to hear will do her harm in the long term.. thus making it harder for you to make the break..
You should not feel guilty for wanting your life back and shouldn't let guilt keep you tied to her..
I'm thinking the guilt would be hard to deal with but I'm very 'pro' for the bigger picture'..
You only get One chance at this life thing..
A person should always be True to themselves first...
28.08.2006, 15:29 quote
| nomiejane wrote: |
| Gosh what a sensitive situation..
I think tough love is required here... It won't help your girl to give her falso hope.. She clearly has mental health problems and feeding what she may want to hear will do her harm in the long term.. thus making it harder for you to make the break.. You should not feel guilty for wanting your life back and shouldn't let guilt keep you tied to her.. I'm thinking the guilt would be hard to deal with but I'm very 'pro' for the bigger picture'.. You only get One chance at this life thing.. A person should always be True to themselves first... |
Kalamity, I think you've read previously about my own problems and as a sufferer, I urge you to do your own thing! I agree with nomiejane. You have to do what's best for you and what's best for your girl IN THE LONG RUN. Don't give her false hope.
28.08.2006, 15:29 quote
you have got to be cruel to be kind,and if you dont trust each other then you have nothing, so let her go from your life and get on with your own,"lifes not a rehearsal"
30.08.2006, 21:14 quote
She proposed to me last night.......I think I crushed her ![]()
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