I know that the topic of shag buddies has already been discussed but my problem is this: I have a guy in my life who I am so in love with, we spend alot of time together, he is practically like a boyfriend without the commitment. He says hes still in love with his ex even though they separated over 3 years ago! I want it to be so much more with him but am accepting that being shag buddies is all its ever gonna be! I want so much to be close to him so I will take whatever I can get from him. Is this wrong?

Its probably not good, as by admission you want more, which you are implying he doesn't. Maybe he might change his views in the future who knows.

What you have to watch is that you don't waste your life with him. You have to ask yourself are you indeed happy to 'take whatever I can get from him'??
Maybe you should think about moving on?

Too be honest, most people will only tell you what you already know. Its something you'll have to decide on, and maybe discuss with him what he wants, if you haven't already done this.

Personally I think you should move on.

if thats what you based your relationship on, shag buddies, then im sorry to tell you that it's all you'll ever be.


If he's getting what he wants when he needs it, he'll never want to make the change. You made it that way, you'll have to deal with it. No man will settle for watching greys anatomy instead of football when they could choose which days they want to see you, not what days he has to see you to keep the relationship going. *shakes head*

Aw sad when there is a one-sided love. Seems to me that the more time you spend with each other the harder it will become for you.
If you chose not to have love with this guy anymore would he still want to spend time with you as friends?
If he still likes to hang out with you then there could be a glimmer of hope but it seems more likely that he sees you as fulfilling his sexual appetite more than having the potential for a relationship or any other commitment.
If you truly want a relationship and a future with someone special, then this guy is not for you, he's already told you his heart lies somewhere else, but if it wasn't, it doesn't sound like he would be choosing you either.
I don't think this is a very healthy situation to remain in, you will make love and he will have love, I can't see that changing from the way you have described things.

I couldn't put it any better than it has already by others before me.

If it's not mutual, it's not likely to go anywhere. Time to move on.

Personally every time I've tried the whole shag buddies thing it's ended up messy (absolutly no pun intended). Someone always wants more out of it than the other person it usually ends in a bad way... or at least with an awkward silence everytime you bump into them somewhere.
If the dude is that hung up on his ex then it's probably a lot better to back off, there's little chance of being more than a rebound (sucks to be a rebound, seriously).
look at it this way though; if he can't wrap his head around someone being crazy over him when he's pining for someone that probably doesn't even remember his name then hey...his loss, you have a website full of people here dying to talk to you....and only some of them are freaks!