Hey everyone, my name is kes
I'm gay and struggling..
while I'm enjoying my sexuality, I'm having a difficult time fending off society. ''

as a human being, I am comfortable in my sexuality
when I am among my mates, or in a LBGT community
But when I'm out of familiar waters, I have a problem

Guys give me a very hard time about it.
I hear things like 'lesbians aren't for real, they just like attention' or ' if you use dildos you're not really a lesbian.. thats the emblem of a man so you desire men'. My favorite is 'but you're too pretty to be a lesbian'

Great. ''
thanks.
I appreciate that.

Anyway, I guess what I'm wondering is whats it like being an 'obviously gay' lady?
Could it be worse for me since I don't tickle the stereotype with short hair or an attitude?

I dont know why people give me so much grief about this..I'm just a girl who loves girls. To me, they are beautiful they are tender they are what feels natural for me to love. Like jazz.
its what makes me happy. Being with a girl. Or several of them. haha..

So whats it to them?

People other than friends are shocked that I am attracted to something other than men. I dont see why.. I'm not loudly gay or straight on the outside...I look rather ordinary, medium length- shaggy brown hair, on the skinny side, a casual low-tone style and a laid back way of life ''nothing about me is extraordinarily gay or straight; feminine or masculine; i dont hate men, i just LOVE women.

and also... how do I fight off these terrible homophobic encounters? '' they really bum me out mates..

You're a lesbian, people around you will just have to deal with it. Theres nothing you can change about it, and you dont want to..so dont let what other people think/say bother you about it.

As for the homophobic comments, i cant really slate it all because i've shouted battyman or laughed at a gay person more than once..but thats overly camp people, they get on my nerves. See, you dont need a french crop and muscles to be a lesbian.. i put it into two categories, the chicks that prefer to look like men are dykes, women who are still women but prefer..women, are lesbians. And theres nothing wrong with it.

You'll find its more widely accepted to be a lesbian than it is to be a gay man i think..if one of my mates told me they were lesbian i'd smile from ear to ear, but if my mate was to tell me he was gay i'd be abit uneasy at first. It's basicly, you both pissed in the same urinal.

But ye, to avoid homophobic comments just dont pay attention to 'em, theyre mostly immature people anyway that cant wrap their head around the idea of two people of the same love together. (Yes, im a hypocrite, sue me.)