Hi all,
Sad story for ya.
Two years ago I tragically lost the love of my life in a road traffic accident. We had been engaged for nearly a year and had just bought our first house together. Five months after moving in we went out on my motorbike for a ride. It was a beautiful day and we did this often. I remember the weather was great. My next memory is waking up in hospital a week later and being told that she was dead......
Words can't describe how I felt.
My friends helped as best they could but now the're all married and have started having their own families which means they ain't as sociably available as they once were. Just when I need them. Just when I've deciced to move on with life and see if I can find true love again.
So the question I have is, how can a guy who works unsociable hours and has widly scattered friends find a special someone. I need to get out socialising but not by myself. Is there another way?
Any advice is greatly appreciated.
Thanks. (this story was so hard to write)

Welcome to the site and sorry to read your story, makes things i've moaned about today so trivial. Only thing i can say is that theres a lot of nice people on this site, not only for relationships but for friendship too, so keep posting - All the best

Wow, that is a sad story. Now, having been in situations where i moved around into new places, my dad was in the raf.
What you need to do is join clubs, maybe night school. Anything that can get you out, doing something that you enjoy, or even something that you've never done before.
Now i know that our situations aren't that alike, but i reckon that it's something that would do you the world of good, and, from your op, will help you achieve what you want.
Hope this helps

Thanks for those replys. Its interesting to see what people think about this because I've been letting this depress me so much. I know I should just move on with my life but its so difficult. I found true love and she set the bar so high I afraid I'll just compare and find fault with any girl I meet. Not that meeting a girl is easy in the first place. But maybe these are irrational fears and if I meet someone it will give me something different and positive to think about. True love is amazing. Will I ever find it again? So far, I doubt it.

I didn't reply at first, cos I found it hard to know what to say to such a sad story.
But one thing I can tell you, is that you can't rush the process you are going through right now, just be patient and try to relax.
Putting yourself under pressure to try and find someone else just won't work, that will happen by itself, and is generally out of your control.

Keep your chin up though mate, things WILL get better with time, that is just a sure thing.....

Yep, you know 2 years is nothing. There is no 'set time' in which to move on. Some people I have found (in life, i dont mean on here) because they have not lost someone themselves find it difficult to understand and try to put their ideas on you - some people DO move on, meet someone else etc all in the space of a few months etc. Others cant for years. Some never do.
Megs is right, dont set a time limit on youself.
In all honesty, you dont sound ready, allow yourself to mourn your loss at its own pace. Time itself will heal, but in its own time.
Big hugs to you. xx

To Mega: You're right mate. These things are out of our control. I didn't think I'd meet the love of my life that night I met Pamela. It just seems it was easier back then because we were getting out and about socially more often. You know what they say, if you're not in you cant win. I just need to know if I can get back in. Does that make sense? Hope your dog is ok man. Respect.
To Lila: Its so scary trying to come to terms with the fact that I may never get over this and never meet anyone again. I can't live alone. Not after finding out what true love can be like. I know I want this again but the seed of doubt is there. I can't let it take root. I have to sort this out. I just don't know how. I guess if its gonna happen it'll happen. Scary huh.
Thanks for taking the time out to help me. I really appreciate it. xx

Thing is... Every relationship is special... And when a great relationship ends when you don't want it to end you feel like you're never gonna feel like that for anyone again... Yet you always do.

Your situtation is however much more sad and difficult, but I believe things will work out for you the same way, as soon as you'll be ready to let go... And I know that sounds harsh, because you might think you'll never let go, but time fixes everything, I think.

Just take it one day at a time and I'm sure it will all work out at some point.
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To S6boystu; I'm in Dublin mate. Bit of a long aul taxi ride home from a bar in Essex I think. Although we have heard some rumors about Essex girls over here. Maybe thats just what I need! lol. Only joking mate. Thanks for the offer though. You're a top man. Respect. Nice motors there by the way. Ferrari for the championship again this yr.