Well the title says it all!

But its not the rape in general thats the problem.. its that it hasn't really effected me all that much =/

I was distraught the first couple of days but after a while I just ignored it...

When I told me sister after a week and a half she said she thought I'd be a little more distraught about it than I am at the moment..

Is it really wierd that I can put this behind me quite easily?

It's not that I've forgotten it.. or its easy to have in a past..

But I see it as an experience I never want to happen again...

Is that wierd?
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The experience is not something I can relate to, but I have had other bad experiences. I don't think there is a "normal" way and a "weird" way to come to terms with an unpleasant experience. I think the only thing that matters is coming to terms with it and managing to get on with your life.

Babe everyone has different was of dealing with things and honestly speaking to me it sounds like you are putting up this front to protect yourself from feeling any pain.
I have been there before and reacted in a very similar way, inconsolable and jumpy for a couple of weeks, then had the clarity of hold on im not gonna let this little twat get the better of me, break me and make me a weak person. and it worked.

But in answer to your question, no it is not strage in fact it is admirable that you are strong enough to use this horrific incidence and turn it into a possitive outcome in the respect that it has made you determind and strong.

In the mean time my heart goes out to you, i hope your ok xxxx

Thanks

Chances are I'll have to see the guy again because he's my cousins friend... and there's also an off chance I'll be spending the night at my cousins again and he'll be there too...

I'm scared it'll happen again but determined not to let it happen..

All my friends are supportive about it and two of them even seriously offered to spend the night in her garden in a tent if I stay there again o.O yeah... they're wierd...

I can't tell my mom... she'll be more protective than she is now and its already alot..

I told my boyfriend but he got angry with me =/ I don't understand why he was particularly angry with me but he might've hidden the anger he has for himself because he wasn't there..

I'm seriously confused at the moment O.O
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Sweetheart, im sorry to say this and i know it is not what you want to hear but if you cant tell your mum then you need to tell your cusins parents so they can do something about this boy. If he did this to you he is likely to do it again and the next girl might not be so lucky.
seriously you need to talk to someone an adult prefrebly, if you cant talk to your parents or feel you have nobody then there are lots of places that can help. family planning clinics for one have on site support staff trained to deal with every eventuality and there to help people. or your doctor will be able to put you in contact with someone.

Huh... I can't tell my Cousins mom.. she's evil and paranoid.. and I don't like her too much...

I can't go to connections because my cousins mom's best friend works there O.O

I've told my cousin though... she never mentioned not letting him ever sleep over again or anything..

My cousin lives on her own btw..

Yeah.. I should try and get him... but if you think about the amount of cases that get... y'know... sorted.. not alot..
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Rape is a very serious crime. Perhaps the full extent of it hasn't hit you yet?

If I was you, which I'm not, I would confront this person in public and and say "If you ever touch me again I will **** you". But that's just me.

Anyway, all the best and don't think for a second this is your fault!!

Hmm....this thread has made me extremely angry and makes me *edited by me*

Obviously you haven't told us the full facts, and how violent the deed was. But I agree with tabletop, its is a serious assault, but like all assaults you heave to report it as early as possible, otherwise any evidence has lost.

If you're worried that the bloke might do it again MizhinessBusines you need to seek some sort of advice. Not sure who though.

Good luck and I hope there are no lasting affects

Aside from the fact I feel you need to tell someone Miz, I note from your profile you're on here with your mum. Reading this is not the best way for her to find out.

The more you keep something like this to yourself, the more it will eventually eat you up. I can only reiterate what has been said here, for your own sake, you need to talk to someone, tell friends/family, warn others.

Stay strong Miz

She won't go on the forum... she doesn't know how to work it..

I don't want to tell her because she'll only hate herself for letting me go.. I know her..

I'll tell her in a few years though >.>

I'll talk to the guy and tell him if he ever tries something like this again I'll report him..

But theres no evidence anyway =/ I'm scared he'll make me out to be a liar...

I'll see who I can talk to and what I can do..
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soz just read this thread,rape is a feckin sick crime,just dont let the bastard get away with it(chances are he'll do it again)sort your head out first then go to police.

Hello? Police?

It doesn't matter if he's a friend of the family or not. This guy should be brought to justice.

im not even gonna comment on this post as i know what i'd do soz im avoiding this post.