About four months ago now i met this girl online and we was getting on really well and we really liked each other so we dated online. we are still okay at the moment but my only problem is that i live in the UK and she lives half way across the world. we really want to meet each other but parent issues have disallowed that, neither of us have the money to do this at the mo. it could be years untill i could meet her and to obe honest i dont know if i could wait that long. a relationship is not buit on talking alone, i just want to hold her in my arms for once.. stuff like that.

now here is my main problem, shes homeschooled so she does not have many friends to go out with and she gets deppressed real easy. i have been thinking about just being friends with her, so we can both move on... untill were a little older at least. we tried that once and she was miserable, she kept crying, so we got back together, (this was about a month ago now) dont get me wrong i still really like her but she is impossible to get to.

i dont know what to do, if i pull the friends card again, im scared of what she would do, breaking up with her would rip her apart.. and i couldent do that to her.. i do love her but waitiing 2 years or so to just see her for the first time and even then we may not even get along so it seems risky to me.

all i want is for us to be close friends, and possibly date people that are a few miles away... not 6000. can anyone help?

thanks so much for your time

Kemal

its only 4mths that you have been in contact she seems a little needy and if you made your mind up that 2yr is too long then stick to that and tell her she will get over it and dont take responsibility for her feelings being hurt as she suffers with depression and that will be whats responsible for most of her upset.

i just worry about her alot

thats sweet of you but b careful that you dont mix up caring about her for really loving her

i would really like to meet her, but i guess thats why most online relasionships dont work out. i guess this is when i should realise that im just young and think i know what love is, which i probably dont.

okay so should i just tell her how i feel? in hopes that she would understand...?

you have to do what's right in your heart, if you don't tell her will you end up resenting her for not being able to move on with your life?? I know I have spoken to people online then met up and the spark just wasn't there, so how would you feel if that happened to you after waiting a few years to meet? I know its not much help but its all the advice I can offer at the moment based on my own experiences. good luck.

try not to get to caught up in it all, cos meeting in person could be a completly diff experience... what if you meet up and one of you doesnt feel it.. so be careful..
and waiting for 2 years, that a long time, think about it this way, in that time, you could meet someone get her pregnant and and have a kiddie..
i think the girl relies on you alot, and thats not fair on you, are you willing to put a hold on your life, on the of chance in 2 years time this could be the love of your life.. be honest with her, tell her its hard being that far away

yea thats another reason, ok thanks everyone for showing me the light, should have thought of it myself.. oh well.

yes she does rely on me, i know that. i guess my feeling for not wanting to hurt someone is blinding me from what i really want.