Hey,

Not been on here in ages! It's been nearly 6 months, and I had 1 relationship for a month or so. The bottom line is that i'm much happier with myself, so it's all good!

There's this girl i've been shamelessly flirting with (and she has back too) and i'm not sure where I stand.

She says to me last friday that she really likes me, but has had bad relationships and is really cautious etc, and thats cool. I told her that, and that i'm there for her anytime etc, and she was like awww thats really sweet etc etc.

So (foolishly) I thought things were good. But I haven't heard from her since. I've tried calling a couple of times, and a few texts but nothing back, and i'm just confused.

So now i'm not sure that i've done something wrong or not, or it could be me making something out of nothing.

Now i've not had this before, but I know that others probably have. Any words of wisdom?

Have you met this girl in person?
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Yeah we've met once, was at a football match. It's how we met, friend through a friend type thing.

All I can say is give her some time, some thing might be happening in her life that you might not know about. At your end all you can do is leave kind messages and show that your there if she needs you beyond that its really down to her and whether she can trust again. If she does get in touch then try to reassure her doubts and explain to her how you feel about her not respoding to your messages.
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Did she just say she liked ya without you askin? Or were you the first one to tell?

I'm askin' cause there's usually no such thing as "bad relationships and plannin to wait". Except for somethin real bad happenin to you (and by that I mean somethin penal). Otherwise I think it's just a way to let ya know she likes you as a bro. That's just my opinion though.

I would tend to agree with Bliss23 (Hey, that rhymes!).

And if this girl literally called you "sweet", then I fear that your romantic aspirations are doomed.

I hope you go on to prove me wrong though! Good luck.

yep sorry to say I reckon though she just likes/wants you as a mate.

Well, sorry i've been so long in replying.

It appears it was me making something out of nothing. She said she lost her phone, so we'll see how it goes though.

Appreciate all the advice, and it could still turn out like it's just friends, and if it is, then it's all good anyway!



Cheers everyone, and i'll keep u posted.

Some advice for the future: Don't get too involved at first and don't think too much into things.

Good luck with her.

good luck mate, im more useless on this kind of subject lol i get really attached easily and think its going well lol, ill have to come here next time im unsure

Let me help you out here, ......if a girl ever says your "nice" or "sweet" your fucked , ..and i dont mean in the biblical sense

nah i reckon (like lots of women ) she showed a bit of interest in you, you showed a bit of interest back, then she hung you out to dry to see what you'd do.................

maybe i'm just really cynical but from my experience a lot of women will show some interest, do the '3 dates' thing to see if they actually like you beyond 'first impressions', then just come out with some really crap reason for not wanting to see you anymore (e.g. 'it's not you it's me'), or tries to politely 'let you down gently' by never being available to meet, (e.g. 'oh no i cant make it next week cos my hamster is ill'), or does the 'i lost my phone', or 'i ran out of credit', or 'i had no signal for 4 days' stuff.......we men are not stupid though, and we see straight through it, and we wonder why they bother!

Ahem cough cough.......SOME *men* can be the same you know......women havent cornered the market in not being straight and direct.....