Hi there,
I just want to say what a great community u have here!

Well my problem, to be honest i have never really dated anyone properly, I've looked at my lifestyle and have out this partly due to the fact that I don't meet enough girls! I started university this year and vowed to change that, but i think i was a bit nervous so nothing came about! Anyone know any good ways to meet new people? When I was younger I used to have such high standards, but now that i realise that someone that looks the way i do cannot expect 'Ms Perfect', especially the way i look! I hope to one day find a girl with a nice personality and smile, who appreciates my personality. thats what really matters!

Wow I've babbled on a bit, any advice would be appreciated

It sounds like you've already identified the problem is that you're not meeting girls, but frankly if you're at uni and you're not meeting people then at least it should be easy to change that.

Who are the people in your lectures? Do you socialise with them? If not, you probably should. Uni always has loads of extra stuff you can do on top of your core course, so just find a group that has a good mix of male/female participants where the subject interests you. Failing that I have one friend who swears that the dancing classes he goes to are great places for meeting women, so maybe find a dancing class.

If you're generally unused to spending time around women, just make an extra effort to build friendships with some of the women on your course that you get on with. Don't treat them as potential lovers unless you're getting clear signals that it's what they want. Just keep going out with them socially to build your confidence until you're able to be out and relaxed in their company.

Also, try and have a social life that's a little bit busier than you're comfortable with. If you're out the chances of meeting people are greatly increased. (Regrettably, none of my relationships have started by a gorgeous woman ringing the doorbell and asking if I wanted a girlfriend)

I think your only issue is confidence, if you don't believe in you then nobody else is going to. Keep going out and pushing the boundaries of what you're comfortable with, if you're out there and looking there will be people of the opposite sex out there and looking too.

Last advice:

a) When someone talks to you, listen to them.

b) Don't assume that everybody shares your view of the world. Think before speaking.

Thanks for your well thought out and clear advice... you really have helped me put it this into perspective. I will take it onboard and hopefully let u know how i get on

Excellent advice mmarkkdd

I;m just like him - except younger. Did all of what Mark mentioned..still nowt - then again, i've never been to successful socially (to much work to do)

What the heck is wrong with the way you look? I dont see anything wrong with the way you look.
Stay in uni and then deal with women. my two pence

I'm feeling the sarcasm there greeneyes...


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