Im mad about this lad at work, he is so nice, get on brill with him and the flirting is just unreal now at this stage its 2 obvious. BUT he has a gfriend who ive heard off him that he is always fighting with her and a few of the lads at work said 'they dont know why he is with her as they dont get on '.. He is always saying nice things to me eg he said to me one day i didnt know who your friend was talkin about until i asked did your friend want to go up to the gorgeous blonde upstairs, this is one thing he said but he is always saying things like this
Its doing my head in, what do you all think!

it sounds very plausable that he likes ya, maybe you should drop him a few hints too, compliements. my own golden rule, after many a false start previously, i would only date somebody who is single. its just i have had the experience to know that some people although they say they are unhappy in a relationship dont make the break when it comes to leaving their partner for somebody else. on the other hand alot of people do, its just ive experienced it where they havent and that is why i feel that way. good luck with that anyway.

Generally speaking, men are extremely receptive to any amount of attention a woman might direct their way (more so than women!), be they in a relationship or not. Human nature. A "nothing to loose" attitude. Who doesn't welcome a bit of female attention. Ego massage, and all that.

Be extra careful with those already in a relationship, especially those who profess or make out to others as though they are not 'entirely' happy with what they already have. Very easy for a person to slip into leading an almost 'double life.' Extremely hard for a guy to leave an established relationship, no matter how bad things may seem.

No use dangling any temptation in front of him, either. Novelty (& excitement) tend not to last for very long, without a push.

my tuppence.

hmm true, thanks, ive stopped givin him the attention just to see how he reacts

straight up?

leave it

he's with someone and wether they fight or not you shouldn't be a catalyst in a break-up, make it clear you like him sure, but also make it clear you wont be his dirty little secret
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i'd just play it cool for the next few days / weeks ... make him think your not interested and guarantee he'll be asking you out soon ... and if he doesnt then it just goes to prove he's a player - wanting his cake and eating it ..... good luck tho xx

yeah it will be difficult bcoz it does look like he likes you ... but you dont want to be second choice ..... so have a great laugh with your mates and try (which will be hard) not to let him see your bothered about him

Ok this is from a mans point of view here...

1. Wow we love the attention from a sexy lady, who flirts like mad, and we have a laugh with.

2. If we are with someone, and someone is giving us signals we will mostly say 'Oh the relationship in is bad, its almost over, what a biatch etc etc etc).

3. Christmas parties are a huge no no, we all think its the time to make a drunken move, pounce, and then spend the next 3 months regretting it as it was in front of everyone else at work. They all know how much you like each other, but if he’s with someone it will reflect badly on you if you do something about it.

4. If he really wants you he would leave his "bad" relationship, and make a move himself.

5. If he does leave his "relationship", you should give it some breathing space and don’t make yourself too available as you don’t want to be an easy roll / rebound fun as if it doesn’t work you will feel bad in your self.
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Good rule to go by always keep them guessing,itll keep them where you want them