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17.08.2006, 07:14 quote
| kathy923 wrote: |
| i love being in love, i always go way to much into it and give myself 110% to relationship, trying really hard 2 make guy happy, and in process scare them off. not been in love for ages though, forgetting what it feels like. |
hi love
17.08.2006, 18:41 quote
i take it you never been there then??
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17.08.2006, 18:45 quote
| Slick22 wrote: |
| Love is over-rated. |
Are you sure you've not been hurt............did'nt mean to pry
17.08.2006, 18:55 quote
| ladytracexx wrote: |
| i take it you never been there then?? |
Oh yeah, i have been there, and it isn't all it is cracked up to be from my point of view, hard to believe? Maybe, but it depends on how you look at things.
Yeah i have been hurt, who hasn't? I would be lying through my teeth if i said i haven't.
however i do not crave to be loved, i am not looking for it, i am a very independant person, have been since a young age, i work hard, study hard, and enjoy life, what i have been noticing is people now seem to be trying so hard to achieve that ultimate happiness that is meant to be "love" i don't think i know anyone that is in a relationship that is completely happy. Perhaps i am looking at this through a slightly different viewing glass since i have had a independant up bringing, but to me love is very much over-rated, it promises so much a lot of the time, yet from past experience and looking at others is does far from reach it's promises.
17.08.2006, 18:58 quote
happy people will be happy, sad people will be sad.
loves got very little to do with it.
17.08.2006, 19:00 quote
| Slick22 wrote: | ||
Oh yeah, i have been there, and it isn't all it is cracked up to be from my point of view, hard to believe? Maybe, but it depends on how you look at things. Yeah i have been hurt, who hasn't? I would be lying through my teeth if i said i haven't. however i do not crave to be loved, i am not looking for it, i am a very independant person, have been since a young age, i work hard, study hard, and enjoy life, what i have been noticing is people now seem to be trying so hard to achieve that ultimate happiness that is meant to be "love" i don't think i know anyone that is in a relationship that is completely happy. Perhaps i am looking at this through a slightly different viewing glass since i have had a independant up bringing, but to me love is very much over-rated, it promises so much a lot of the time, yet from past experience and looking at others is does far from reach it's promises. |
Yikes!!! well i will have to say that there was a lot of truth behind what you wrote there... and maybe if i was honest related to quite a bit of it..... I like your very honest view and your very straght way of talking.... with a no nonsense attitude....
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17.08.2006, 19:11 quote
Thankyou, i am sure by others i am being seen as somewhat pigheaded, but such is life.
It is subjects like this though that people seem to get so involved in, that they cannot see their true wants, and needs. I am sure i am not the only one to have been involved in a relationship where i have only been in it for the comfort factor. When we look back we realise that we didn't really "love" the person, we enjoyed knowing we had someone to come back too. As a species we crave companionship, we are force fed it through the media, and subjected to it from an early age, we cannot help ourselves but want to "Love" someone.
17.08.2006, 19:13 quote
| Slick22 wrote: | ||
Oh yeah, i have been there, and it isn't all it is cracked up to be from my point of view, hard to believe? Maybe, but it depends on how you look at things. Yeah i have been hurt, who hasn't? I would be lying through my teeth if i said i haven't. however i do not crave to be loved, i am not looking for it, i am a very independant person, have been since a young age, i work hard, study hard, and enjoy life, what i have been noticing is people now seem to be trying so hard to achieve that ultimate happiness that is meant to be "love" i don't think i know anyone that is in a relationship that is completely happy. Perhaps i am looking at this through a slightly different viewing glass since i have had a independant up bringing, but to me love is very much over-rated, it promises so much a lot of the time, yet from past experience and looking at others is does far from reach it's promises. |
hi..i understand what you are saying, as years ago i felt the same and also had a very indepandant upbringing..always thought of myself as a loner..and i would also state that i never craved love...so i agree with you...
..but discovered that humans actually need to feel 'loved'..and i over looked this so easily...so love isnt over-rated..emotionally we need it..
17.08.2006, 19:27 quote
I can see what you are saying, but i would have to disagree.
I don't consider myself a loner, i have a full compliment of friends and i am a very social person. I do however place great value on my own space, more value than anything else.
We as people needing to feel loved i do not agree on, hence my comment of it being over-rated, as in my previous post i think that the feeling we all mistake for love is the feeling of comfort, knowing that someone is there to come back too. I haven't been in "love" for 4 years, and i do not miss it a bit. I have everything i need and require, yes i do miss the comfort factor sometimes, of just having someone to do all the things with that you wouldn't do with a friend, but they have very little part in my life at the moment, perhaps as i get older then they might take more of a part in my life, but it will not be until i decide that i WANT those things.
17.08.2006, 19:30 quote
that a fair comment i feel... but i suppose as i am that little older now.. then maybe i would like to have that security of being loved ... and share my love with another!
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17.08.2006, 23:37 quote
| Slick22 wrote: | ||
Oh yeah, i have been there, and it isn't all it is cracked up to be from my point of view, hard to believe? Maybe, but it depends on how you look at things. Yeah i have been hurt, who hasn't? I would be lying through my teeth if i said i haven't. however i do not crave to be loved, i am not looking for it, i am a very independant person, have been since a young age, i work hard, study hard, and enjoy life, what i have been noticing is people now seem to be trying so hard to achieve that ultimate happiness that is meant to be "love" i don't think i know anyone that is in a relationship that is completely happy. Perhaps i am looking at this through a slightly different viewing glass since i have had a independant up bringing, but to me love is very much over-rated, it promises so much a lot of the time, yet from past experience and looking at others is does far from reach it's promises. |
i agree with what u say, but i think being in love is suck a fantastic feeling, that to go without it for a long time brings ppl down way to much. i've seen so many of my friends get depressed coz thry've been single for ages, and am starting to get that way myself. being in love is something u cant replace, no matter how harrd ur frileds try, yeah it hurts, but its worth it so long as ur with the right person and its real love, not the kind of love when u care about them a lot, and when they say they love u u say it back 2 keep them happy.
18.08.2006, 04:49 quote
| kathy923 wrote: |
| and when they say they love u u say it back 2 keep them happy. |
18.08.2006, 04:54 quote
I know a lot of people will disagree but i do honestly believe you only find true love once if your lucky thats why you've got to grab it allways ............. 
18.08.2006, 07:44 quote
| ScotsDave wrote: |
| I know a lot of people will disagree but i do honestly believe you only find true love once if your lucky thats why you've got to grab it allways .............
I do not disagree with you. But i truly believe should you have been lucky enough to find it once! Then the chances of finding it Twice are pretty slim. Yes you may love them and think you may be in love, but love is a whole lot more than just words!
Life without love is no life at all |
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