depression, my favourite subject! (sarcasm)

well long story short ive been suffering from depression as a result from feeling lonely at nights also a phobia of death doesnt help. here are some of my observations from the situation.

the thing is if you want to help someone that's depressed i have noticed a running theme with people like me is that they dont want therapy and they don't want all this stupid fuss made over them, i certainly didn't when i was told i might be scitzophrenic and that i might be suffering from clincal depression.
also i have noticed that no one talks to you like your human, more like your insane i don't want to be asked if i'm okay, i'm not okay, but please just talk to me i mean i am a nice guy!
finally if i look like im having a shit time of it, i probably am.

If anyone fancies watching an alternative view - a Middle Eastern view - of depression, what it is, and how to treat it, here's a link (I take no responsibility for its content, nor consequences from watching):

http://www.videosurf.com/video/clinical-depression-or-jinn-possession-hd-video-salafi-sunni-perspective-1201399205

I'm completely sickened and outraged to find that some deviated pre-verts online have hijacked the term OCD. How would anybody reputable - and in need of information - feel to go and type OCD into the internet... and to then be presented with a series of videos on: 'Obsessive C.o.c.k Disorder'...? Utterly despicable... but admittedly, it did result in an elevation of mood!

I met my ex here 2 years ago, he came clean about his Bipolar condition on our first date. I have a mild depression and anxiety issue myself. I gave him a shot as I saw him beyond his flaws for the person he truly is.

We broke up not too long ago and I just wanted to highlight a lesson I learnt in general.. (and this is in no way meant to discriminate anyone suffering from mental illness)

I believe that in order for a relationship to work out successfully, regardless of whether we are mentally ill or not, we have to be a whole person ourselves first. I believe that the quality of our relationship depends on how independent and satisfied we are about ourselves and that relationship should never in any circumstances be a solution to any problems in our life (loneliness, sadness, depression).
We should never depend on a relationship to give us happiness, a good friend said to me once, that we have to choose to be with someone not because we need them, but because we truly love them for who they are, because one day, we will no longer need them as much as we used to, or that the person you need may not always be able to fulfill your needs.

I'm not putting mental/depression sufferers hope down for a chance at finding love, everyone deserves to love and to be loved!
I believe that we are all capable of living an independent and fulfilling life despite having mental illness.
I just hope that everyone in general could learn from our mistakes, because as much as we loved each other till death do us apart, we made a very big mistake from the start and that was heavily depending on the relationship in hope that it will shed some light into our depressed lives.

I read this article not long ago, written by a BPD sufferer who blogged about her thoughts on maintaining a long-term relationship and being mentally ill at the same time.

http://dedicationtorecovery.wordpress.com/2011/05/20/things-that-i-have-learned-about-mental-ill-health-and-maintaining-a-long-term-relationship/

All the best x[/color]

I've suffered from depression for about 2 years now. And I can agree with most people, depression is a hard and tiring battle.

Mine resulted from an inferiority complex that just escalated until I could barely even look at people. This made people thing I was just being rude and was ignorant because I tended to avoid social situations. But this wasn't the case at all, I really wanted to mingle with people and maintain relationship, yet I just couldn't. People usually take one look at me and roll their eyes when I tell them I suffer from depression.

@staceynight - it's good that depression is now something that you can actually talk about and that you have identified your trigger as being the inferiority complex. I wondered if you've been offered help to address those issues apart from medication?
Also, is there still somebody around you that is still 'feeding the cause' and making it harder to move through the difficult feelings you have towards yourself?
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I agree with laurach23. It is no fun being a mental zimmer frame for your partner.

I had depression for a few years. It was awful. But with a combination of one or all of these you can in time get better or improve the outcome. But the key is not to put a timecap on it. For example if you have been depressed and seeking therapy, medication and say 6 months down the line you still don't feel the benefit, contact a GP to change a drug but not to cocaine, see another therapist, or stop seeing a therapist's altogether if it's not for you and except that for xxxx amount of time, and this could be years months weeks or days you have this condition and your not well but at this moment this is how I'am. That's not saying to give in with it but acknowledge you aren't well and you're working on it. That's what it was like for me but it could be a complete mirror image for someone else. But one helpful tip is to help the meds work into your system quickly is to do some activity. Even washing the car. You may not be able to do this with some forms of this illness but if you can it does help as well as raising endorphin's (not dolphins) in the brain known as the feel good hormones.