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17.06.2006, 19:28 quote

jenmck

Hey in one of those downer moods, you know feelin insecure, paranoid and worthless? It will pass but though i would vice on here. I duno wot it is thats wrong with me but i jus cant find a man, well i can find men but usually ones who are only after one night stands and i really dont want that, i want more. I want someone to want me and not jus for one night only. I never get approached when im out, im usually the one who approaches the guy or doesnt have the guts or enough alcohol to do it. Anyway rant over jen xxx

 

17.06.2006, 19:36 quote

Anonymous

I feel exactly the same right now. Sad

 

17.06.2006, 19:49 quote

jenmck

Its so frustrating isn't it Laura, your constantly told by friends (who are usually in relationships) that you will find someone when you least expect it, well it hasnt happened yet so when? arghhh *screams into pillow* jen

 

17.06.2006, 19:53 quote

Anonymous

Yeah, that is bad.

Anyway, i'm sure there's nothing wrong with you

 

17.06.2006, 22:32 quote

Anonymous

awww im sure there will be someone sometime that gets attached. Just play a little hard to get and dont sleep with them straightaway, make sure they get your number and work it slowly.

 

19.06.2006, 02:27 quote

sweetsnuggles
Joined: 22 Oct 2005 Posts: 11 Location: USA, Oklahoma, Oklahoma City
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Nope there is nothing wrong with you.
Men will see a good looking woman across the room and they are afraid to approach because they hate rejection to. Eye contact and little flirting helps. I agree with Dan , Don't sleep with them, let them know that your not looking for a one night stand if they keep on trying. We always want what we can't have. I made my ex wait one month before I gave in.
He used to tell his buddies "she made we wait a month man and when i got it I wasn't about to let it go. he said " I was so busy trying to get up on it and she snuck right into my heart , you got to watch this one she is sneaky.

 

19.06.2006, 02:35 quote

Anonymous

She snuck into my heart thats well sweet.

its like this if you dont have food for a month and someone tosses you a cracker, they will be like this 'damn thats the best damn cracker i have ever eaten, thats no ordinary cracker...right'

so same concept, deny sex for a while and when you have been going for a while, give him it, it will feel like the best damn sex ever.

some of that taken from Eddie Murphy Raw, well funny stand up. Very Happy

 

19.06.2006, 20:52 quote

oneononeluva
Joined: 17 May 2006 Posts: 34 Location: United Kingdom, England, London
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jenmck wrote:
Hey in one of those downer moods, you know feelin insecure, paranoid and worthless? It will pass but though i would vice on here. I duno wot it is thats wrong with me but i jus cant find a man, well i can find men but usually ones who are only after one night stands and i really dont want that, i want more. I want someone to want me and not jus for one night only. I never get approached when im out, im usually the one who approaches the guy or doesnt have the guts or enough alcohol to do it. Anyway rant over jen xxx


I was in a downer mood too last week (insecure, paranoid, worthless etc - ask SexyDan!). To me, it seems normal for a man to find it difficult to find a woman, and your situation ties in with my refining view(s) of the dating/mating game.

Men want to have sex as frequently as possible, with as many women as possible.
Women will only choose certain men, and it is the women who give the order on whether or not any sex takes place, not men.

Like i say (in so many forums), in the dating/mating game, the women do the choosing; women are the hunters, men are the hunted. Some blokes won't understand that; it's expected.
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19.06.2006, 20:57 quote

Anonymous

oneononeluva wrote:

I was in a downer mood too last week (insecure, paranoid, worthless etc - ask SexyDan!). To me, it seems normal for a man to find it difficult to find a woman, and your situation ties in with my refining view(s) of the dating/mating game.

Men want to have sex as frequently as possible, with as many women as possible.
Women will only choose certain men, and it is the women who give the order on whether or not any sex takes place, not men.

Like i say (in so many forums), in the dating/mating game, the women do the choosing; women are the hunters, men are the hunted. Some blokes won't understand that; it's expected.


I think you are right, here.

 

01.07.2006, 12:45 quote

chorlton75
chorlton75 Joined: 30 Jun 2006 Posts: 35 Location: United Kingdom, England, Merseyside
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There must be something wrong with me as well because I very rarely get approached either. One solution is to have the bottle not to wait to be approached and try going first for a change if you see someone you like.

 

01.07.2006, 17:49 quote

Anonymous

absolutely nothing wrong with u jen Wink ..dont worry it will happen and when u find the right guy you will just no Wink

 

02.07.2006, 04:53 quote

Anonymous

oneononeluva wrote:
jenmck wrote:
Hey in one of those downer moods, you know feelin insecure, paranoid and worthless? It will pass but though i would vice on here. I duno wot it is thats wrong with me but i jus cant find a man, well i can find men but usually ones who are only after one night stands and i really dont want that, i want more. I want someone to want me and not jus for one night only. I never get approached when im out, im usually the one who approaches the guy or doesnt have the guts or enough alcohol to do it. Anyway rant over jen xxx


I was in a downer mood too last week (insecure, paranoid, worthless etc - ask SexyDan!). To me, it seems normal for a man to find it difficult to find a woman, and your situation ties in with my refining view(s) of the dating/mating game.

Men want to have sex as frequently as possible, with as many women as possible.
Women will only choose certain men, and it is the women who give the order on whether or not any sex takes place, not men.

Like i say (in so many forums), in the dating/mating game, the women do the choosing; women are the hunters, men are the hunted. Some blokes won't understand that; it's expected.


Too true, men are just peacocks strutting our stuff.

Society has tried to change the female perception to make them believe they are worthless without a man, hence we are now in this very confused situation.

Hope you pull out of your funk soon

Wx

 

02.07.2006, 08:54 quote

jenmck

Ok so i feel much better now, i met someone a week ago when i was out at a club, we texted last week then he came round yesterday and is coming back 2day, and dont you worry i am not giving him sex until i know him better. He is so lovely Laughing jenny xxx

 

02.07.2006, 19:45 quote

cuteinnocentguy
cuteinnocentguy Joined: 23 Jun 2006 Posts: 78 Location: United Kingdom, England, Bristol
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i am so happy for you jen.....hopefully we are both going to be really happy from now on Very Happy

 

02.07.2006, 21:07 quote

Anonymous

yeah thanks you two, rub it in why not...9dont you just hate happy couples when your single)

Best of luck guys, hope it all goes well for you both and your prospective partners.

 
 
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