Well I met this woman on Gumtree, I was looking through the Dating section and saw an ad looking for a romantic guy, I am quite romantic but very shy too so I replied. We have talked back and forth in emails for aout 2 or 3 days. She seems nice and has sent me a picture. I haven't sent her a picture yet because I'm cautious sending my picture t someone off Gumtree. Anyway she's not looking for anything like nice which I am not looking for either, she's looking for a relationship, like me. I've asked if there are any other guys she's interested in from Gumtree and she said no, just me really.

The problem is can I really trust her until I am certain she is genuine. The other thing is I'm 20 and she's 25, would this be a bit uncomfortable? The reason is I don't know if some people would be against me going out with a woman 5 years older than me but if she is genuine and we do get along like I think we would I would definetly go out with her if she was around the same age as me but the 5 year gap between us is a bit off putting.

So what does everyone think?

Thanks!

Don't give her your credit card number etc until you've met in person. Whether or not she's genuine is down to your intuition. Do send her a pic, as it seems unfair not to reciprocate. Have you considered webcamming on msn or similar? And who cares what other people think about her age? 5 years is peanuts.

Good luck

I agree with what Ed said above.

If you get on with her, go for it. 5 years is nothing..and nothing to do with anyone else anyway ..and you wont know anything about her until you meet her. So go for it.

Go for it! 5 years is nothing, but if you get the chance to video chat, you'll feel more comfortable about meeting up 'cos you'll be able to know the person at least looks like their pic.
Good luck anyhow

very true, if you think she's cool, no age gap can be bothered at all & I agree, observe her a bit before finally spilling up all your secrets.

Well it seems more normal these dayz to meet new partners via the internet. Until you have spent any amount of time in this ladies company ujust wont know but use ur gut instinct it usally serves us well. Age is not the issue here maybe ur making excuses not to try something different. Go on u might find u like it lol gl.

5 years is bullshit. Don't stop something good (if it is) because of 5 years. I was dating a 26 year old when i was 18. I don't regret doing it either.

Your a guy arent you? the higher you go the more of a pimp you are.


There's no way you can get the "shes genuine" from people who havent seen what she's written and what youve written. All i can say is, don't believe the "your the only one im interested in from here" because thats never true. People will say things they think you want to hear.