Okays so yah me and my ex broke up recently from a long distance relationship we've been in for 2 years and i've put no contact into place to try to find myself and heal and do some thinking. Its been just a little more than a week now. My ex has two guys in her life me and and the "other guy" and when i was with her he confessed to her and now she's all confused and broke up with me.

They have been spending more time together since he lives closer together. and it hurts me alot. I just did something really really stupid i went onto her profile on facebook and i saw pics of him and her holding hands >_< my heart is starting to hurt again.... the whole week of no contact seemed like it was a waste and now im back to feeling the heartaches again just when i thought i was getting better. I guess im not completely over her and i still love her. The thing is she told me she doesnt know who she wants to be with but i think she picked him already the day she broke up with me.

Anyways, im thinking of going to see her this weekend and tell her that i still love her and want to be with her but theres no room for 2 guys in her life so if she decides to keep him im going to walk out of her life for good and forever because it hurts me too much to see them together. It seems like she is trying to hold onto 2 guys at the same time. Is that really a good move or should i keep on to the no contact?

Seems to me she's made her choice pretty clear already.
Why arent you accepting that? what makes you think she can't decide between you and him?
I think the picture of him and her holding hands on facebook is a big clue.
Try to regain some self-respect and dont go crawling to her begging just to have her turn you down. All you are doing is re-confirming what you already know.....chin up, a week is nothing to get over a lost love, be kind to yourself and give yourself time to mourn your loss.
Then move on.

Sound advice there.

She's broken up with you and has pretty much announced to the world that she's with a new guy. Arriving at her door declaring love would not be a good idea. Move on.

It just wasn't ment to be

She has had her head turned by this other chap

Even if you went up there and tried to change things it probably wouldn't work out

I hope you find your happy place again soon xxx
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Hey guys appreciate everything you guys said and i can see where you are getting at and you guys are probably right that ill regret this but i think this weekend im going to go see her and ask her who she wants to be with and that theres no room for 2 guys in her life. and if she wants to be with the other guy ill just stay out of her life because it would hurt me to see them together.

I think i need closure so i can finally accept it and it would be easier to heal and move on after all she was my first love so its going to be really hard. I just dont think we can just end things like this without things being settled. Im still deciding whether or not my love for her is true and if i would fight for her to the end or not. What do you guys think??

maybe if i fill you in with more details too see if it matters. basically she wants me to tell her about how i really feel about her and i told her i rather do this in person than IM or on the phone. originally i thought about just sending a letter because she is not worth going so far for anymore because of what she did. I feel betrayed but i still have feelings for her and i wish things with her would end up well. I've been in no contact for more than a week now and i starting to heal and feel like i dont need her in my life anymore. But i still feel a part of me is missing

But i still have feelings for her and i wish me and her would end up well together. I feel like things arent settled yet and i need closure in order to move on and heal healthily. She said she would make time for me this weekend if i come. She said she needs to know how i feel and think and says it might make a difference. Notice the word "might" i just dont get it... how can she be with someone so fast after breaking up with her first love, Me. What about true love? If you love someone truely and deeply you would do anything for them? you would fight for them to the very end? I would do that but only if that guy is not in her life because it hurts me too much to see them together.

And i need some answers before i can make a decision to fight for her to the very end or its time to let go. I would rather do this in person. So basically what im saying is im looking for closure. And i talked to some of my friends and they say if you dont try your best right now then you might regret it for the rest of your life but if you tried your best and she doesnt end up with you at least you wont have any regrets beccause you tried your best? What do you think about this? Do you believe in it? Anyways so yah thats whats going on now.

Sounds to me like he's hittin' that.

you mean he's hitting the girl???

Dude... trust me, dont chase after her.

If a girl leaves you for somebody else, she simply can't be trusted again, no matter what the excuse would be.

I understand that it hurts like hell, my last relationship was almost 3 years, moved out with her and everything, but i came home because my dad fell ill with cancer, and she had the nerve to leave me for this guy i really liked and trusted her with... the week after my dad's funeral.

A few weeks later i find out they're engaged, planning their wedding and everything.

But very very early in the relationship.. i did forgive her for cheating on me, perhaps because i loved her too much to let her go, but this goes to show... a leopard never changes it's spots.

all that happened in august last year, and even now i still come to boiling point when i think about it too much, but trust me, it helps sooo much to keep your mind occupied, delete her from facebook or whatever, and avoid her circle of friends as they'll only make you dwell on it more.

Think of the future, you're obviously a devoted person to want to chase after her in your situation, but seriously, it gets alot easier and in my opinion, each serious relationship always gets better and deeper than the last one, you learn from each and become stronger for the next one.

she's not interested .. move on

Your right you will regret it. Shes not going to care and WHY do you want to be with her anyway. She was seeing two people at once..You would never be able to trust her..