I think this lack of confidence after coming out of a long term relationship must be quiet common. Before I got married I had never found it hard to get women.. I'm not the best looking bloke but I've got a cheeky way about me (or did!) that women have always seemed to like.

However, after coming out of my marriage and onto the dating scene again I found it a lot harder.. even just having conversations with women I found a lot more difficult, I'm not sure why. I remember saying to my mate, "I think I've lost the magic." Hahaha... a joke, but a fairly good description really!

I think in my case its the lack of practice, but then I did mention Rose coloured glasses (not just a joke relating to my profile) - maybe I just think I was better at it before? not saying that moose is imagining his past - I bet you had them queuing around the corner.

Well that's what I'm telling myself!

It might not be a confidence thing at all, just might be that the aspirations of your new target audience have changed as you/they get older, maybe its about adapting to that audience, who knows

Don't discount the out of practice thing. When your in a long term relationship and faithful you develope the 'not looking muscle', you stop actually considering possibilities with people because of the person you are with. Thats not to say the opportunities aren't there, its just you stop seeing them or are more ready to discount them because of a covertly developed sense of fidelity that creeps up on you when your with someone for a long time.

My only advice is take risks. Your looking for signs and assurances to step forward by comparing those opportunities to your ex. that could be whats holding you back.

Its time to break new ground not follow old formula's. new person, new rules.

Well, I just took my first risk and it was less than successful.

But I have not lost hope - back to the drawing board for me.

Well if they were all successful it wouldn't be a risk. Better luck next time.
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Why worry what the reason is, it's his loss anyway.
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Certainly is. He's a dickwad for not taking up a once in a lifetime blink if you miss it offer.

Thats the spirit!