Here's a question...

(Don't take it seriously, cause it's a part of a long row of questions and I don't think someone can give an answer like: 42 - to quote on STU)

How soon after you meet someone/talk to someone/whatever would you say it's normal to feel attached and want to talk to them/see them regularly? And when is it more or less safe to say how you feel?

I'm askin' coz I don't understand if it really depends on the person:

1. Coz I see sum people going like OMG I LOVE HIM SO MUCH, OMG I LOVE YOU SUZIE after they just met/talked for the first time like two days ago - BETTER YET THE FEELING IS MUTUAL as they both say/state it. LOL

2. I know some guys who keep on talking bout all sorts of lovey dovey shit from the first minute they met you (as in "so when are we moving together?" or such, and they seem real serious too), but ITAE says that's what they think women want to hear (and I agree with him there)

So I kinda wonder if it's a personal problem that if I really like someone I feel attached real fast, or if it's how you're supposed to feel? And I also wonder when is it ok to tell the other person how you feel? Because if you do it too fast, you seem nuts (in my opinion), if you act like it doesn't really matter for too long, you may seem too hard to get/not interested.

Of course the thing isn't that easy, there are many things to say (like what kinda people you pick and where you find them and all sorts), but...

In conclusion... Is it not normal to feel attached real fast, if you really like someone? Or is it normal? And how fast is too fast? And is it normal to tell them, or to keep quiet for a while?


Make whatever you want of it... Now that I just read it again... It seems like it doesn't make any sense and, as said, it's part of a question set - not really justified on its own. But give an answer, if you will.

You don't half come out with them bliss!
I don't think there can be a right or wrong answer. If people get attached quickly there's all sorts of reactions they might get and it's gona depend on the other person's previous experiences too.
Like some people would run a mile the minute they felt somebody was getting attached to them 'cos they're scared of getting too close to somebody due to things in their past. Then there's others who like to feel needed and welcome attachments with open arms.
So it can go any way really and may be the best approach is to follow your gut feelings as to the right time to express certain things.
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Very smart answer ! I like so far.

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Okay keds!

1) When is it safe to say how you feel about someone -

Never, there isnt really a time and a place to throw how you feel at someone because their reaction will still be the same, unless you wait months and months before you're 100% sure they feel the same. Which is stupid, because if you cant be open with the person then really its not worth trying in the first place. You cant really tell when its safe, but if you talk alot and you dont have to think about conversation, chances are you can just go out and say it. But make them say it first, like i did with a certain someone@@


As for how fast you can be attached, it doesnt matter. If you click with someone, you click. You cant force yourself, it comes naturally. So its like, how fast can you get to work every morning? depends on traffic, some cars wont be there one day but mass cars will be there another.

True. Thanks Bananaman.

My answer is this:
If you "like someone" you will naturally be attracted to them and spend a lot of time with them and talking with them.
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If you "love someone" the time period for this can obviously vary wildly.

It is your own personal definition of the word "love" that cuts it. Everyone is different.
Go with the flow I say. Enjoy the experience.

PS Luv u Gypsy and Bliss!

Depends how long the glue takes to dry

ROFL!!! Like it Centurion Like it!!

i prefer goin with the flow and to be honest, if a woman tells me she feels "very attached" from the get-go, its kind of a turn off, no matter how we 'gel' and whatnot. i sorta prefer a cheeky-still-playin-hard-to-get-misdemeanor from her even after we get past the physical intimacy stage.. u can say im more a bonnie & clyde type dude rather than a romeo & juliet romantic lol
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Stu I had love at first sight and it worked for me mate!

haha i meant "demeanor" not "misdemeanor" though it might just have been a Freudian slip considering the bonnie & clyde reference lol
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francine needn some attention
wilma givn that thank u smooch
ha no im not pinchin lois' tig ol bitties
betty wonderin how the marry she ended up here