I'll break it down as much as I can for an easier interpretation and understanding...

1) I lived with my older brother and his wife. We had lost touch over the years being that he is my half brother and is 15 yrs older than me. So he offered for me to move in to catch up.

2) My brother told me I could stay with him throughout college. I wasn't so sure but I said I was because it was logical. My brother said I wouldn't have to have a job while I go to college making college easier on me.

3) Life living with my brother became somewhat stressful and very isolating. ( I moved over 500 miles away from all my friends and other family ).

4) I started longing to go home and started wondering if going home wasn't such a bad idea, but I kept these thoughts to myself because of my brother's sensitivity.

5)My brothers and I visit some of my older brother's family and friends in NY.

6)He lets me stay at his best friend's house. I live with him and his girlfriend for 2 and a half weeks. We bond and really end up liking each other's company. It's a very laid back, worry free place and is only 5 hours away from my other family members and close friends versus 13 hours.

7) After my brother gets me from NY and we're back in NC I tell him of my plan to move in with his best friend and girlfriend, seeing that they offered.

8] My brother cuts off ties with his best friend saying," no best friend of mine anymore, I wash my hands of him."

9) My brother is (on a daily basis), talking to me about how he hates his best friend now, and how it would be smarter for me to stay here, and how I ruined their friendship...

Here are my options...


A)I stay here and continue to be stressed out living with my brother and lonely being so far from all my closest friends and family. Go to college down here and live off of my brother.

B) Continue with my promise to my brother's best friend and girlfriend that I'd move in with them, and go to college up there while working a part-time job and visiting friends and family once a month.

C)Go back where I started and share an apartment with a good friend while I work part-time and go to college.



Any help? I know it's slightly complicated but I've gotten myself into a mess I'm going to need more than just my brain to figure out the best plan...

Hi.

It's hardly a multiple choice test for me to fill out. Reading your choice of words, should you not give thought to what sounds like a man with issues of insecurity,possessiveness,jelousy. My choice of words would be control freak.

You gave 3,choices to choose from. I would reccomend not staying with your older brother of fifteen years your senior. But that's your choice.

Your Choice
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ha ha yeah... I try to label his controling tendencies as him having " sensitivity issues". But yes he is quite a bit controling. But I love him and yes we caught up. It took him a while to accept the fact I wasn't a kid anymore... that was awkward and annoying. His wife is a really nice woman, sweet too.

I like how you worded everything lol. Didn't really think it was that blatent.

The more I think about it the more I'm leaning towards going back to NY. I just can't take life living under someone else's control. I did that for 17 yrs and I don't want to go back.

Thank you so much for your input. I really appreciate it. still love the way you put everything.

You're welcome.
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It seems you miss your family and friends a lot so I think you should move as close as you can to them, whatever it takes. If not now, the other option is when you graduate from college (if I got it right).

As a good friend of mine would put it (and I think it's going to be today's thought too)... Sometimes in life you just have to grab yer balls and go where you've never been before. In your case... You'd have to grab yer balls (or whatever you have close lol) and go where your heart tells you you should be, no matter the consequences. That's what I think should be done, although in yer place I dunno if I'd be able to do it myself.

I have recently discovered that it's much easier to keep staying in one place, even if it drives you mad, than risking it and going where your heart says you belong.

Anyway... It's a hard decision you have to take and I wish you luck.
I'd pick C.
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It's really come down to a tossup between NY and CT. I only have a week to decide. But I am considering what you both advised.