So, the scenario: I've had my eye on this absurdly cute girl in my improv class at my community college for this entire term so far (so, 4 weeks of it), and apparently, she's had her eye on me. So yesterday, we're really hitting it off during class, and all seems peachy. Then, after class, I'm headed off to catch my bus, and she's headed off to the gym, which is on the way to the buses, and she kinda waits up for me and I sorta catch up with her (you know... the slightly awkward, "If it works it works" sort of thing). And that's where I run into a problem. We walk and talk a bit, but... well, I honestly don't know much about her, other than the fact that she's into acting and drama in general and seems to have an awesome mind and a great personality to go with her looks. Still, that doesn't help with small talk, especially when I'm bad at it in the first place.

So we walk and talk, like I said, but it's... well, awkward, especially on my part, and we both quickly find ourselves running out of things to say. It's not even that far of a walk to our respective destinations. So, I end up just sort of feeling lame and quickly learn to dislike the taste of my foot in my mouth, she seems a little put off by the awkwardness of it all, and I end up having to literally run to catch my bus. So, in summary, we finally get a chance to talk and nothing really comes of it other than awkwardness, and I end up literally running away from her, even if it is to catch a bus. Not exactly the scenario I had been hoping for.

So, tomorrow's a new day, and I'm going to be seeing her again in class. I really do want to get to know her better - she seems like she's totally my type as far as personality and intelligence goes, and if you throw on her looks she's a dream come true - and I'd like to try again in my efforts of getting to know her, and maybe, just maybe, getting her number and/or e-mail so we can get together sometime outside of school.

So... how do I do it? I REALLY don't want a repeat of my last attempt... but it seems that either A) I need to learn the fine art of small talk with intelligent, pretty, and more than a little intimidating females or B) Find a way to avoid small talk entirely and still accomplish my goals of getting to know more about her or C) Figure out something else entirely (which maybe you fine people can help with ).

Suggestions?

Have you had/organised a date or a cup of coffee yet? Chatting while going somewhere else is not really a relaxed environment.

Jegs is right. Ask her out. You can use arranging the date as the small talk on the way to the bus. This will also give you time before you meet up to think about what you might want to talk to her about or ask her about then you will have some ammunition when the time comes.

I think you should try not to worry too much about what to say, just ask her question's about herself, hopefully her answers would enable you to ask more question's, and then you could see if you both have some common ground, then conversation should start happening more naturally. Getting her email is a really good idea, you will be able to chat from the comfort of your own home, and it would give you some time to think up some thing's to say, which you obviously are struggling with face to face. Also Jeggae's idea of going for a coffee is a good one too, but try and find out a bit about her first so you can think of some thing's to say, without getting flustered.

Pretend you are back in your improv class and improv with her.

Too be honest, if its a mutual attraction, then she will just be happy to spend time with you. You might clam up a bit, but she probably wont mind.

We all have problems chatting to women we like a lot. I'm having problems chatting to a women I like on the net. I've chatted to loads of women over the years on the net, with no problem and have chatted for hours. I feel a lot of pressure chatting to this particular women, and have her messages open for ages thinking what the F*** can I say to her. We've done all the chit chat, and I'm struggling with her and think she must think I'm boring. But she seems happy chatting to me.

Problem is no matter how much you prepare, your mind may well go blank. But if she likes you she probably wont mind.

But its always best to get women talking about themselves, they like doing that Ask her about her family, what she likes what she dont like, her friends. Get her talking about her holidays, her pets. Get talking about books, some women like books. Even if you dont like reading, start reading a fashionable book so you can talk about it . Offer to take her to the pictures. Sometimes its good to pretend you like some of the things she likes....bit of bullshit goes a long way

If you know what her interests are, find out a bit about them so you can talk about them. Offer to do something with her that she likes.

But the important thing is, if she is attracted to you, she will probably enjoy just being with you.[/center][/list]

If there is a mutual attraction..then you really shouldn't be worried about small talk..if your both in the same class..then you have both worked out already what each others characters are like..

The more stressed you get about thinking of things to say to her..the more you will clam up..just be yourself..and if she likes you, then small talk is cheap, so the saying goes..good luck

From my point of view, if there's nothing to talk about the relationship can only disolve in love. LOL

I mean, you have to admit it... When you hit it off with someone, you hit it off... There are no weird moments, no little talk, you either talk or you don't talk...

Tryin' to pull the talk into something it's not usually isn't worth it...

And I know the case of chit chat... I once had a huge crush on this guy I had absolutely nothing to talk with about.

I think of myself as a pretty interesting person, with lots of things to say and I usually do talk a lot. Funny fact is that he's not the chat n chat n chat type, but he does speak quite a lot to his friends... And I've always hated that he speaks a lot with them and with me nothing...

When we meet, even these days, we always have three questions: How've you been? Still doing the x thing? How's that going? And the end goes like: That's great. Missed ya. Ciao.

I think that when there's nothing to talk about, there just isn't, no matter how interesting you both are as people...

It's a really weird situation anyway... On second thought though, maybe it sometimes has something to do with people not being interested in opening up to other people for several reasons.

And boy, it still pisses me off that I have nothing to talk about with this guy, and we've been knowing eachother for over two years now. LOL But hey, I got to understand him and me and the weird 3 minute talk between us... That's just how it is so I'm enjoying other things about it. And no. Not what you think. LOL

Get yourself a clubcard and bugger off to Tesco!!!

Smile, listen and reciprocate.

what snaith said, perfect sentence that is lol.


mind you back at school i used to do the same thing, i mean i could talk to women just not the ones i really liked always used to bulls my sentences and make myself look a proper twat :O

im sorry bliss, but your reciprocating days with this bloke are over

just get your tits out, im sure that will spark some sort of conversation? lol.