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28.01.2008, 23:28 quote
well bassicly what im not sure about is, i signed up not to long ago, i messaged the gals around my area/age that i though sounded my type or just nice to chat to, no replys if im perfectly honest, i tried being truthfull and open in my profile, not been messaged though, and well is there anything else i can really do on the site to help meet people? like am i missing something here hehe, any advice would be nice
31.01.2008, 00:24 quote
There are quite a few threads on here lately about how women in particular dont seem to be replying to guys messaging them.
It seems a shame that. Gives me the impression that maybe I am in the minority that actually want to get messages - isnt that what most of us are here for?
To 'cherry pick' the ones that fit a little pigeon hole of one's expectations seems a bit daft really - if someone writes me and its plain from Message One we are not compatible, the least I can do is thank the guy for taking the time to write - even if it's obviously a "copy and paste" job and he's not read my profile (unless he's particularly rude, which to be honest, the only 'rude' I've had -bar one bizarre evil weirdo - its been more like 'crude' and funny).
Maybe I am toooo nice like that - cuz it's always me that sends the last message before they vanish!!
The only advice I can give is keep messaging, accept the fact that not everyone is going to reply but dont take it personally, and try to make your opening message stand out from the crowd.
The ones that catch my eye for instance are the ones that call me by name (and it's not "Hunny", "Hun", "Babe".....!) - read her profile and say summat about it - not just her photo.
If she's written "I don't do msn" (like I have) dont give her yours as an opener (like I get...) if she's looking for friends only/anything except sex, dont open with "fancy a shag?".........etc etc. cuz thats the kind of stuff that gets deleted without a second glance.
Chin Up!
Good luck!
01.02.2008, 08:57 quote
And that was my point as well. I talk to anybody and message anybody if i find something that made me laugh, think about something, agree, disagree. My point was that i am not really here for anything but a conversation to begin with and when i get ignored i am more likely to leave then stick around. That is why i I am here on the forums instead of out there now. At least here people are responding to input.
I don't discriminate when it comes to messaging people and i don't have an agenda, or ulterior motive, when i message somebody but somebody else might think i have.
01.02.2008, 17:11 quote
I hate to say it, but I think your age may not be working for you, 'cos girls of similar age are more likely to be going for slightly older guys
It is still 'early days' though.... so just give it some time and don't forget there are new people joining all the time.........do you check out the new members? I think you may be more likely to get replies form new people 'cos they'll probably be excited about having received a message.
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