ok so my first love... met him wen i was bout twelve and we were together a few months. we broke up and got back. and broke up and got back. and it went like that for a while. i met my kids dad when i was fifteen and was with him until i was twenty one witha break in the middle when i just happened to meet up with my first love again and we had a few "sessions" but nothin serious. lately he's been textin me as we met up again and exchanged numbers. we live in the same town but i hardly ever see him as we move in different circles. he has asked me if he can come over with a bottle of wine and have "a wild night" to which i replied that i wasn't sure. i've always had a thing for this guy and he's always had a thing for me no matter what happened or who we were with at the time. i have told him that im not into one night stands and that i have shaggin buddies and aint lookin for another one... to which he told me that i would never be a one night stand or a convenience fuck but that he didn't want to rush into a relationship. i told him that i never mentioned relationships and that i wasn't gna rush into anythin either. but i know he has the power to hurt me badly. i just dont know if i should put myself out there to be hurt.

any ideas on this...?

If you think somebody will hurt you, it isn't worth it.

You must have broke up with him for a reason, or are holding back for a reason.

Shagging buddys huh. I wish I knew how to get that lol.

Well if my experience is anything to go by I wouldnt bother with him, it isnt worth the pain in the end.

At the end of the day, if we were to pre-meditate our every move then life would be kinda dull. In my opinion, you cannot live life to the full if you are going to put a stop to something that you fear will go 'tits up'.

I am a strong believer in fate and that life is a learning experience.

If you wanna take a chance on this guy and take things slowly, then you have my backing, 100%. At least, if you think that it will all go wrong, you can prepare yourself for 'the shit hitting the fan' incident.

Fair enough it may not be all sunshine and roses in the end, but won't you be far worse off if you never find out, and live the rest of your life wondering what could have been?

Grab life by the balls babe. There is a reason you have bumped into him yet again, and I say if you are both willing to explore the possibilities, you will find exactly what the reason is. . .

PS If it dont work out, I'm sure you will have NOOOOO problem in baggin some other lucky fella. You're a looker gal!


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You sound a bit fragile to me... if you can already get what you want from elsewhere why let him get that close to you again.... knowing in your heart all he'll do is cause you upset.

My advice would be to steer clear.....

hmmm there are a lot of you saying i know he will hurt me and to steer clear, but all i said was he has the power to hurt me, not that he would. only queenie said go for it. i dunno... haha. **thanks for the looker comment** lol

i aint fragile either. trust me on that one. was with a guy for six years who beat and humiliated me and alienated me from all my friends and family. but i got away and am a stronger person for it today.

he's the kind of guy who if all he wanted was sex he would have no problem telling me. and i'd have no problem with him telling me that. its my perogative to say no if it aint what i want. the thing is.... i dont know what i do want. i think im freaking out cos he sounds like he is thinking of a relationship and i'm not sure i want one.

think i'll take it at a slow pace and see what happens... afterall, it's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.

thank you all for your advice... if it all goes tits up i will let you know so you can say "told ya so" haha and if it works out i'll let you know queenie so you can look smug and say "i was the one who knew it"

lol.

In that case, all you can do is go for it and see what happens. But seems to me you would prefer a relationship with this guy.

Hopefully thats a better answer now we have a bit more info....

ok lastnt was the night he came over... we snuggled on the sofa and he played with my hair and we had a few glasses of wine and had the best laugh. the rest is...... ahem.... never mind. but i guess now i just wait and see what happens... glad i took the chance tho.