i have a son his name is ali he was 1 on wednesday. i have not seen him since he was 4 months old because me and his mum split up and she wanted me to have nothing to do with him. i went to see a solicitor and things were going ok untill some un-known person (i know who it was) went to the social services and told them i was abusing children that put a stop to any legal action untill i had been cleard. by the time it had cleard up it had been to long acording to the solicitor to persue any legal claim. so now all i can do is nothing and yes it hurts like hell.

now then i have found out she is seeing some one els wich is fine by me she is free to see who ever she wants. i'm cool with it but i know this bloke he is a known drug dealer and a user. if i go to the social services and raise any concern they asume i am trying to cause trouble and dismis me. there is other things like when my familly go to the carboot sale she is there with loads of people and will stand and stear at them to haras them she does it to me to even last night i went out because it was my birthday and they steard me out to. but the most concerning thing for me is that there is drugs involved and this is going on around my son what do i do help me please

If he's a known dealer get someone else to shop him & inform social services at the same time.

If you don't do it, then you can't be blamed for any fallout.
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thats kinda what i was gonna say..get the proof somehow, thats what we have to do here in the states..I wish you all the luck my friend, i can just imagine what you are going through worrying over your child, my prayers are with you

Call the social services, or get somebody else to do it for you.

You may need proof, but surely that would be worth it? They seriously wouldn't be able dismiss it.

Call social services, they can't dimiss you out of hand, They HAVE to investigate any claim you put forward, no if ands or buts about it. Any prior record or accusations that have been thrown towards you do not matter as far as they are concerned in this report.

Call social services, they will not turn you away.

if i go to them all they will do is call her on the phone (like that will do any good she is hardly gonna admit it) as for any harsment she has been doing my solicitor reccons i should make a report to the police so that is first on the agenda for tomorrow. as for the social services he sugested the same thing having some one els call and make a complaint. i must say though it comes to some thing when they will not listen to a parent makes me sick this country does

Dude... I really feel for you. A real dammed if you do, dammed if yo dont situation. There are plenty of other proffessional bodies out there to help you and the kid. Dont give up!

You could always try childline http://www.childline.org.uk if social services don't act.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that your son is being abused (which is normally what they deal with), but obviously if drugs are being used around him, it can't be any good on health grounds..
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cant really say anything more than everyone above me has said but hope all goes well for you

First thing is go and make a formal complaint at your local police station about the treatment you and your family are recieving from this woman. Make sure all your family is there to complain together as they may take statements. I still dont understand why your solicitor cant go forward to court for access to your son. Must be a different legal system to over here.

Secondly if you have a friend that is off a good social background eg a manager in a business etc get them to inform social services. They may not take you seriously because of your history with this woman and may feel that you are too close to the situation. A local neighbour that lives beside your ex may also work if they can provide information on what happens in the house eg loud parties, people coming and going at all hours of the night. Its not alot of information but its the best that I can give you so good luck.

I had bad history with my exe! My daughter who was 2 at the time arrived for contact with one side of her face black and blue! I complained to the social services who did take minimal action of placing them on the at risk register! it didn't stop any abuse my children suffered over the next few years until i took matters into my own hands and battered her boyfriend after he laid into my son with a cricket bat!

Best bet may be to attempt to get evidence if the guy is dealing! mobile phone photos a pal trying to buy off him! then go for custody yourself!
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Christ eccles i hope you beat him to within an inch of his life....

gavisaac, i can't really add more than what people have already said. Im sorry for your trouble...

you know after i had a go at him with my hands i hasten to add he didn't touch my kids again but what got to me most was the lack of interest from the hairy tights brigade (social services!) and the courts because at the time we were still in the throws of divorce! so much for the best interests of the children eh?
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This guy is liscensed to chill, and thrill, but the opportunities to thrill are rather less than anticipated!!!!