My niece keeps doing it, no matter who there is. It´s so embarrasing..What can we tell her? she´s only 6!But she will be starting school soon, and we dont want children to laugh at her...You know how cruel kids can be..Any advice? Wow, always, when I'm so stressed, surf in the net and I've found this page, which really interessting ist!

http://www.minddisorders.com/Flu-Inv/Frotteurism.html

That's kinda hard, but I don't think it's a case of "frotteurism"... More like a case of discovering she's got that pleasure point (or maybe an itch caused by something? sorry). Kind of early, but nevertheless... You should seek advice from a children psychologist (and at least stop her from doing it in public).

After that, if it's the discovery of the pleasure point and not just an itch caused by something, it will pass as she ages and she starts understanding things better (also things become more complex). But right now it's a question of what she can do in public and what can harm her.

If you don't feel like going to a psychologist, try www.allexperts.com , for starters... It's a great site and you should find psychologists providing free advice.

http://www.allexperts.com/el/Psychiatry-Psychology-General/


p.s. Don't force her into anything, as in telling her it's WRONG and she's BAD for doing it and such, cause it may stick with her psychic/subconscious part when it comes to later similar experiences. It's a delicate subject.
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Ummm..... spray some Mr Sheen on the table before she goes on a merry? If friction/static joy is burgeoning in said youth, then maybe an introduction to the wonder of rubbing a balloon on ya head before sticking it to the wall is in high order. The balloon - not ya head. Oh, and make sure the balloon is inflated and take all the neccessary safety precautions before hand.
If the young un is indeed of a 'frottaging' persuasion, then you could always

a) Threaten them with the Devil himself, or Papa Dolmio - choose one, or
b) Mothercare do jockstraps. Truth. Ok, i lied.
c) Change all wooden furniture to metal and electrify the whole bally lot, or
d) Just all out ban Hollyoaks from the house. Yes! Even you're not allowed to watch it!

If all else fails, 'stop doing that!' should do. Beyond that, you may have the spawn of Satan on your hands, so option A would just make the child laugh. As would option C.

I'm sure they are lovely.

Good luck x

I think Bliss is right about getting her examined to see if there is some physical reason.
And I'm surprised downwardxspiral didn't suggest - in his list of ideas - some other logical ones eg raise all the tables, cut off all the corners, or buy round tables!
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Both of my nieces did that.

One of them is 5, the other was 10..They also humped the dog, the 5 year old tried to kiss the dog with her tongue and managed to find porn on the laptop.

There really is no way to stop them, and its sad because if they find that the area gives them pleasure at an early age then what age will they lose their virginity? scary thought. Just try and teach her its wrong.
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Ahahahah (sorry)... Kissing and humping the dog, now that is wrong (yet of course understandable), but rubbing yerself to objects is actually pretty classy (of course, not when you're six, but later on).

And from some points of view, it doesn't necessarily have anything to do with the age they lose their virginity at...

I still don't agree with the WRONG part. Sex and sexual stuff aren't wrong (regardless of the moment they appear in someone's life). Education and allowed freedom are more likely to be wrong. But it really depends on the child, for the final ANSWER. We live in a weird world and things like that are more than likely to happen, regardless of what you teach your child and how much freedom you allow them.

As for my answer... I'm kinda speaking from experience... I had lots of freedom as a child and access to a lot of things kids don't usually get access to, and my folks always spoke frankly... However, as weird as it may sound, coming from me, that didn't make me go cuckoo and do crazy things at young ages... More like the opposite. And they never laid a hand on me either.

Thinking about it... The fact that they treated me as an adult and my opinion mattered made me consider their advice even more.

In my opinion, as an eternal child, there are two bad things with telling a child they're wrong (instead of discussing the issue on their own level of understanding): 1. It can remain in their psychic (as I've previously mentioned) and affect them on several levels when they grow up and even at that time. 2. Telling them they're wrong and bad may make them do exactly the thing you told them not to...

I believe in a more like friendship (not totally, but mostly) parent-child relation, because if you maintain a friendship level, they'll come to you for advice instead of going somewhere else, as they'll consider you a good version of themselves when they grow up instead of an evil version who just wants to ground them.

Of course you won't be able to prevent them from doing everything you don't want them to do, but, by whole, a friendly relationship will work much more than a "You're grounded !" relationship.

I'm still for the children psychologist thing... They've been studying children behavior for a long time and should know how to approach the problem (probably even better than a parent).

As Stu would put it... My 2p.


Welcome back, BANANAMAN, even if for a short visit. You've been greatly missed, as you already know.
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LOOOOOOOOOOOOOL rubbing herself against tables hahahahah f*cking classic!!!!!!!!

she may want to take up a job as a furniture restorer in years to come. she may develop an addiction to beeswax and french polish. in 12 years she could work for me preparing timbers and completed furniture. oops sorry.

sorry I shouldn't joke about it.

bliss is correct in this matter and am glad she has advised as sch. There are cases where sensory development can highlight physiological sensory triggers. It may be a comfort trigger or pleasure or maybe a sensory diversion technique which children sometimes develop.

some occasions it can be highlighted like a "nervous twitch or tick" which can with time, care and support be handled and cured, if not effectively managed.

I wish you and your niece luck in this matter and will keep my fingers crossed.