Right, i met somone online a month or two ago, we got on like a house on fire chattin all day every day, met up last week and got on even more, We decided to start seeing each other. Was realy happy cos i was crazy about her n thought it would last. A few days later she decided she doesnt want a relationship n just wants to be friends. I was absolutley gutted but agreed to be friends cos she has become mates with my mates n i knew that in 2 weeks she is joining the army n i wouldnt see her again. Problem is she is now not joining the army and i dont know how to be friends with someone i have strong feelings about. Any help would be apreciated.

Turns out i no longer need any advice as i found out tonight that she lied to me about her feelings towards me n actually broke it off cos she wants to be with my best mate. So no need to try n be friends with her cos i hate her n nevr want to see her again

This is a place some people know all too well. Was she seeing your mate when you were seeing each other?

And its an unwritten rule that mates leave be anyone we have feelings for. In my personal opinion, a friend that does that to you is worse than the girl. But i see why you dislike her now.

Maybe you could stay on speaking terms, its never nice to be on terms where you argue.

My mate knows the rule all to well as its happened to him in the past. They knew how they felt about each other the day after i met up with her and the day we agreed to see each other officially and they have both lied to me since then.

Ironic thing is before we met up she was worried i would like her best mate more than her.

My head is far to screwed at the moment to say anymore sinsibley but i know we cant be friends cos of the stuff she has done to me over the last week.

I do know that he is working with me at paintball in a couple of hours n he better not walk near me while i have a gun in my hand

your mate then go get her mate and f**k them all ...seriously sorry to hear bout it mate,not much consalation(spelling!!) but least it happened just now and not further down the line

Cheers for the kind words. Well never got chance to shoot him, my boss pre-empted my mood and made sure we didnt work together, Had a chat n orted things out with him, he is a decent bloke just stupid. As for her told her to get out n stay out of my life until i dont hate her or hell freees over. im guessing in will be the latter.

well mate while your waiting on hell freezing over go and get her mate ..so is your mate still going to keep seeing her?

Well he asked my permission to see her, which i gave but i said i never want to see her n she is barred from going anywhere i am.

He told me that if i had a problem with it he wouldnt see her, he wouldnt risk our friendship for a bird.

And has he????

I told him i wasnt bothered if he saw her, which i am but if they honestly like each other i dont wanna stand in the way, it wouldnt be fair.
Me n him r goin out on the piss 2moro night so will see if it causes a problem or not then.