Ok iv decided to bite the bullet and ask a girl out. Been about 8 months iv been single now but over 4 years since i last asked anyone out.

Problem is im nervous as hell. Dont know how to approach her. I see her everyday at she works in the same place i do although im in the office she serves the coffee and the food out at the makeshift canteen in the foyer. Prob reading signs that are not there but shes recently been smiling at me when i go up in the morning in a way im perceiving as not her usual, also been telling me my drink before i get to say to her. Tried a bit of chat with her today and didnt fall on my face so thought of just going for it tomorow. Any tips? Also think the signs iv noticed are even signs? Im a bit rusty at this malarky.

give us more stats and info like the age and gait and then if u dont get sound advice here, u can post the question in the bananan man thread
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francine needn some attention
wilma givn that thank u smooch
ha no im not pinchin lois' tig ol bitties
betty wonderin how the marry she ended up here

Woosh!

sound of what you said flying right over my head

..whats ur/her age?
..describe the way she walks
..then ask bananaman for advice


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francine needn some attention
wilma givn that thank u smooch
ha no im not pinchin lois' tig ol bitties
betty wonderin how the marry she ended up here

No idea what her exact age is or how this would help but she is around my age. Mid 20s and shes behind a counter so as far as her gait goes she doesnt lurch around lol she seems like a decent person not wild or in anyway a ned or chav for you guys down south. Just one of those nice girls who also happens to be attractive.

well from one nervous person to another, i'm gonna say, just go for it. I did the other week and i have to say it wasn't as bad as i expected ! although i did sit for an hour in the carpark literally shaking
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lol mid 20s and around the same age as u? then what are u waiting for dammit.. just dont be upfront about it.. that upfront way was played out in the 80s.. small talk goes a long way! ask her what she plans for easter and u 2 might just find yourselves in the cinema gigglin by next week


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francine needn some attention
wilma givn that thank u smooch
ha no im not pinchin lois' tig ol bitties
betty wonderin how the marry she ended up here

So what ask her that then same time ask out for a drink or movie or what. Damn im lost. So i cant just say how you doin today, etc do you fancy going out sometime this weekend?

how did it go stu?

lol i always favour the indirect approach, so i would advice dont be direct with some cliche like "fancy goin out this wknd" lol ur in ur mid 20s dammit! i would start to talk about films ive seen recently and she might just happen to have seen a few herself and thereon starts a good convo.. and this doesnt have to be movies, she could have other interests and whatnots.. a good convo between a potential couple mostly if not always starts with mutual interests and the rest just flows
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francine needn some attention
wilma givn that thank u smooch
ha no im not pinchin lois' tig ol bitties
betty wonderin how the marry she ended up here

Was gonna ask if she got the long weekend too and if she fancied it going out for a drink thursday night. Im not really a clubby person. Id prefer a nice bar with a bottle of wine so i can talk and not make a fool of myself, not right away anyway, need to make the girl laugh at some point tho With this weather its either night in with a movie, pub or cinema. Night in is no go as thats like at least a 3rd or 4th time thing, cinema you cant really just do that as no time to chat much but could tie that in with pub before or after or both. Hows that?

Dude you're way over analyzing. its not a military bombing run you have to plan out. Friendly fire could happen , but only if its the blind guy pulling the trigger.

Just chat, see how it goes, if you feel she's starting to warm up to you, spin an idea of doing something or going somewhere. Some of the best made plans fail so play it by ear. if she isn't interested in chatting to you and answers blunt with no emotion, switch to defcon 4 and dive. Otherwise, Let it flow man. You'll know when to ask.

Yeah i do that sometimes but its mainly nerves. Got way off course talking about gait and direct indirect lol oh well wish me luck i shall post the good/not so good outcome tomorrow night

Well be positive and optimistic. Good luck bud.

Shes seein someone. But taking positives i had the balls to ask her out so i guess im ready to meet someone as i took that first step. Positive i am me