hi all,

got into a pretty tight situation.
i've had many mates, one of the best of em all pastd away las year. overtime, i've come to realsie that i don't hav much in common with the few lads i hang around with.

one time they kicked off with a group of lads over a 20p lighter and tried jacking em, and to me this was jus petty theft and was gonna get into a fight over this? wat worried me was the fact that i was the only one who seen something wrong here!

i've allways respected every1, reagrdless of age. my school mates younger cousin started selling hashish (drugs) and now thinks he can treat me like sh*t, las nit he tried to jack me. i got hold of him, but he dropeed and started kicking like a struggling child in the back of my car..he kick me in the face.
I got out the car, he shot out and ran off. Now he's sent a msg saying he wants a fight.

I so badly want to knock his teeth in.
But, i've got no1 to stand behind me..i feel his cousin (my mate) will betray me. I known these guys for so long, i know a fair one on one fight can change with a blink of an eye. Regardless, even if everything work out in my favor..he will call the police..thats my future gone, its hard to get a job with a record!

At mo, i'm carrying on with my own stuff..but i can't get it off my mind?

How do i get this off my mind? I can't revise for my exams cuz am that heated up!
What should i do?

i appreciate any advice..cheers.

dude whats with all the violence

but you seen to think that having a fight will solve your problems, is this the way you wanna solve your problems all the time..

at the end of the day, your at uni, your hopefully gonna make something of you life... fighting all the time will get you nowhere but sent down.

everytime you fight someone, theres gonna be someone else who wants a fight too, its a never ending circle

Pay me and i'll stand behind you
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Only advice I can suggest. Is avoid it if ya can, but if they charge up to you ready for a fight, then fight.

No fighting isn't the way to handle disagreements, but niether is it wrong to fight. (Senseless violence is another thing entirely) But if someone starts a fight with you, I don't see any reason not to fight back. Just be sure that they're not just tryin' to scare ya, and they really are trying to start a fight.

aDecentGuy:
How much?

Tinker:
I've thought about that also, in the long run it could lead to more problems...but sometimes ignoring an issue is not the best approach.

Claymorewolf:
a msg was sent that if i want a one on one then let him know, he can arrange for that. Now, i think he jus trying to scare, cuz he could hav fought las nite but didn't. He's pretty much invited me to a fight, but in a sissi way (if you want a one on one..).
If i back out then they could take advantage of this & bring trouble to my house, or believe that they can jack me in future as i'm not capable of doing anthing about it.
these issues hav been going through my mind since.

Voilet, tinker, wolf, decentguy: thanks for your feedback; any good karma/meditating suggestions welcome.

At the moment, am trying to revise, gonna avoid whole issue. Will try to get to gym 2morow to burn some energy, and calm me down.
If i do see him, then i'm gonna hav to (hopefully) scare him or go ahead and suffer the consequences.

maybe u should get into martial arts. not so u can beat the crap out of anyone, no more than defensively but cos many include or are forms of meditation. Maybe read some books on zen.

The Role of Meditation in Martial Arts
http://www.chosuntkd.com/mdc/articles/roleofmed.htm

Zen in Martial Arts
http://www.shotokai.cl/otras_artes/introzen.html

Brother wolf, life is hard enough as it is..I don't wanna start getting bullied cuz am carrying a book about Zen around with me. Now, do i?

Update
Was speakin to a mate (P) (cousin of who kickeed off), telling him that he (Shaky) sending threatening msgs & i sd am not afriad of him.
Meanwhile, he arrived..sed he wants to kick off..then it happened so fast, he pulled out a knife & jumped at me.
Jus as i got hold of knife, he quickly moved away agin; i shot for him but his cousin (cough, cough .. my mate) came in the way, then throw me on the floor.
Shaky ran to kick my head, but i moved fast & he missed. Got up again, not realising who with who?
Some guy pulled into street and got me in his car..i jus did not want to go.
i promised to be back for him!

Went home, family asked what the blood on my leg all about & i had to tell em wat happening. My brothers calm me down and sed am only gonna make matters worse. Younger bro wants me to go kick his head in.

Now, i'm more pissd than initially, i can't call police cuz i got no witnesses (except guy whp picked me up, but he didn't see knife).


browolf, only kiddin bout book. will look into, cheers.

Pick me up and £100
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sorry but it all sounds childish to me. little guys who think they are the kray brothers or something! It takes a bigger man to walk away!! just ignore the lot of them and get on with your life. Can't remember who said it sorry but the leg wound is sufficient enough evidence. Life is way to short to play stupid games.

Yea, have to agree with the above posters, go to the cops.

Of course if ya wanna take it more personal, get some mates, a white van, grab 'em sling 'em in the back, strip 'em an' leave 'em in the middle of town naked. At very least they'll be embarrased, an' you'll get quite a chuckle out of it. Though it does run the risk of them wanting to hurt ya some more.