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08.03.2007, 00:45 quote

Anonymous

Alright, forgive me if you don't understand me, I think I'm one of the few people on here who's not from the UK, Scotland, Ireland or surrounding countries. But I honestly needs some help.

I dated my ex for a couple of months, but he was one of my fest friends before. So when he dumped me out of the blue, I was completely heartbroken, not to mention that I fell hopelessly in love with him. Then, a few weeks after we broke up, I met another guy,

Well, I'm currently stuck with the situation like this; my ex is now back in my life, wants me back (insisting that everything I think about him using me, not caring, etc. etc. is not true). I thought I was over him, but when we started talking everything I felt for him came back. the only difference is now, I really, really, really don't like or want sex. Which, well, we considering we had lots of sex before, he doesn't get.

Though in the mean time, I met this other guy. He is amazing and I really like him. I know he's going to ask me to be his girlfriend soon, and I don't know what to do. He is the greatest guy, treats me like I finally found a good guy. Downside, he lives about an hour away from me, and I still live with my parents, so it's difficult to see him.

Any advice at all? I have an ex who I love, but mistreats me and makes me feel bad, and a possible new boyfriend, who is very nearly perfect for me. I've considered trying to be with both of them, but I can't hurt my friend, he's been cheated on with every other girl he's dated. And my ex wants me back, as in his girlfriend.

Anybody?

 

08.03.2007, 00:57 quote

Anonymous

cashmoneydayle wrote:
mistreats me and makes me feel bad


I think the clue is in the question. I'd ditch the ex if it were me.

 

08.03.2007, 01:24 quote

Anonymous

Indeed, the new guy seems best. The old will prob not change once you're back with him in my opinion

 

08.03.2007, 03:07 quote

chris343
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chikhai wrote:
cashmoneydayle wrote:
mistreats me and makes me feel bad


I think the clue is in the question. I'd ditch the ex if it were me.


Agreed, and hi from the south Partyman
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Cause the man he don't pay me.

 

08.03.2007, 08:56 quote

Anonymous

yer leave the ex alone and go with the new guy, just cos you would see him less it dont mean nothing, it might even be good for the relationship to see him less often than you are used to.

 

08.03.2007, 20:49 quote

Anonymous

I know what you're all saying... but by far easier said than done. And the sad part is my ex is friend's with one of my friends (none of my others because well, two very different stories that involved lezbian sex and an ex.... long story) and she told me he talks about me all the time.

And to the person above me, every guy I've dated I've seen him max once a week. They have all went to different schools, at least a half hour away. More commonly 45 minutes to and hour.

And like... what do I do when my ex is being, well himself. I fell in love with him for a reason...

Somebody talk over my life and live it for the next, oh I don't know, 12 year, and get me through university, and res., and then I'll take back over. Ok? deal.

 

09.03.2007, 16:38 quote

Anonymous

cashmoneydayle wrote:
Alright, forgive me if you don't understand me, I think I'm one of the few people on here who's not from the UK, Scotland, Ireland or surrounding countries. But I honestly needs some help.

I dated my ex for a couple of months, but he was one of my fest friends before. So when he dumped me out of the blue, I was completely heartbroken, not to mention that I fell hopelessly in love with him. Then, a few weeks after we broke up, I met another guy,

Well, I'm currently stuck with the situation like this; my ex is now back in my life, wants me back (insisting that everything I think about him using me, not caring, etc. etc. is not true). I thought I was over him, but when we started talking everything I felt for him came back. the only difference is now, I really, really, really don't like or want sex. Which, well, we considering we had lots of sex before, he doesn't get.

Though in the mean time, I met this other guy. He is amazing and I really like him. I know he's going to ask me to be his girlfriend soon, and I don't know what to do. He is the greatest guy, treats me like I finally found a good guy. Downside, he lives about an hour away from me, and I still live with my parents, so it's difficult to see him.

Any advice at all? I have an ex who I love, but mistreats me and makes me feel bad, and a possible new boyfriend, who is very nearly perfect for me. I've considered trying to be with both of them, but I can't hurt my friend, he's been cheated on with every other girl he's dated. And my ex wants me back, as in his girlfriend.

Anybody?


hi there moneypenny..

well to add my two cents worth..Do you think its possible that you have these feelings for your ex because he was the one who dumped you? what i mean is, you obviously felt shit about yourself and pushed away, and nobody likes that feeling..you even said yourself that he does not treat you right. And be careful that the only reason he wants you back is because you are the only one who let him treat you like it. (I take it he dumped you for another and now thats finished with..(why?))..Maybe deep down this is why you are not interested in sex anymore?you may know this already but dont want to admit this to yourself..
regarding new guy...you sing his praises and seem to get on with him better..and an hour away is nothing, so not really an excuse..just feel like you are having issues of doubt and self worth about yourself and mistaking it for still being in love with ex...sounds to me like you are seeking closure..

 

09.03.2007, 17:09 quote

Anonymous

lmao @ moneypenny

 

09.03.2007, 17:13 quote

Anonymous

scottie69 wrote:
lmao @ moneypenny


does Kevin get names wrong alot?? I swear he called me tinkerbell earlier Laughing

 

09.03.2007, 17:28 quote

Anonymous

TinkerLou wrote:
scottie69 wrote:
lmao @ moneypenny


does Kevin get names wrong alot?? I swear he called me tinkerbell earlier Laughing


lol..I just make it easier for myself to remember all these profile names..and you happen to have a bloody great red thing written about fairies also...

#its my age...memory is not good nowadays...#

 

09.03.2007, 17:33 quote

Anonymous

KEVIN53846 wrote:
TinkerLou wrote:
scottie69 wrote:
lmao @ moneypenny


does Kevin get names wrong alot?? I swear he called me tinkerbell earlier Laughing


lol..I just make it easier for myself to remember all these profile names..and you happen to have a bloody great red thing written about fairies also...

#its my age...memory is not good nowadays...#




awww bless you Gavin...lol

 

09.03.2007, 19:51 quote

Anonymous

KEVIN53846 wrote:


hi there moneypenny..

well to add my two cents worth..Do you think its possible that you have these feelings for your ex because he was the one who dumped you? what i mean is, you obviously felt shit about yourself and pushed away, and nobody likes that feeling..you even said yourself that he does not treat you right. And be careful that the only reason he wants you back is because you are the only one who let him treat you like it. (I take it he dumped you for another and now thats finished with..(why?))..Maybe deep down this is why you are not interested in sex anymore?you may know this already but dont want to admit this to yourself..
regarding new guy...you sing his praises and seem to get on with him better..and an hour away is nothing, so not really an excuse..just feel like you are having issues of doubt and self worth about yourself and mistaking it for still being in love with ex...sounds to me like you are seeking closure..


He didn't dump me for another girl. He dumped me because 'I'm too much of a distraction to him, and he was failing math, and pret-near failing drama and english.' says him.

I'm not interested in sex because a) it hurts like a m***ing b*tch 2)it's never been pleasureable for me c) did i mention it hurts?

and not to contradict myself, but I live in country where I'm not done mandatory schooling, I don't have a drivers licsense or a car, and there is no way I can afford to take a train to London every weekend.

And I don't even know what closure means.

 

09.03.2007, 19:53 quote

Anonymous

means end of ....

 

10.03.2007, 01:51 quote

Anonymous

may I point out that kinda contradicts my dilema?

 

10.03.2007, 10:33 quote

Anonymous

sounds to me like you already know what you wanna do then Rolling Eyes

 
 
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